Your Marriage Matters

Hey gang! Welcome to Your Marriage Matters with Team Jacobus This podcast is dedicated to couples that want to get the most out of this crazy thing we call marriage! Each episode is designed to guide us in a fun and exciting way through the skills, strategies, tactics and mindset we need to build a compelling life together! Our goal is for all of us to create the vibrant and healthy marriages we all dreamed of when we said “I do”. Welcome to Your Marriage Matters with Jim and Christie Jacobus!
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May 3, 2024

The Fundamentals for Building A More Vibrant, Healthy Marriage!

Hey gang ... Welcome to Your Marriage Matters episode 189 - The Fundamentals for Building A More Vibrant, Healthy Marriage! Since we are doing a new YouTube channel. we felt like it was important to go back to the fundamentals as a reset for everything we are going to be covering in the days and weeks ahead!

The fundamentals we are going to be covering during this episode are simple but powerful! They are: Create a "shared vision" for creating a compelling life together! Master the critical skill of communicating effectively! Master the equally critical skill of being able to solve life's inevitable problems together!

In this episode we discuss these from a bit of a 30,000ft view! In future episodes we will get into much more depth with very practical, real world skills anyone can learn! We do want to get you started creating a shared dream together so we put together a "Bucket List Exercise" downloadable pdf to prompt your discussion with each other!

You can download this exercise by Clicking Here! Thank you for joining us for this episode. Click

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Apr 26, 2024

Problems, struggles, and conflict are signs of a healthy relationship!

Two imperfect people working to build a life together in an imperfect world are bound to face struggles. This is due to the mere fact that they:

  • Are male and female
  • Grew up in different households
  • Have different personality styles
  • Have different views on sex, money, household roles and responsibilities, parenting, and a dozen other subjects.

All of this, and more, means there will be conflict! What matters is how we handle it!!! This entire month, we will be following the theme of "I Am NOT the Enemy" (thanks Ben and Megan Coleman) and looking closely at effective strategies and mindsets for turning the inevitable differences we are going to have into a strength in our relationships!

Knowing we have each other's backs and that we will process struggles in a positive and healthy way builds confidence in ourselves and in each other! It isn't easy but it is well worth it!

Apr 19, 2024

Join Jim & Christie Jacobus on episode 187 of Your Marriage Matters as they delve into the profound lessons learned from their adventurous journey as full-time RV travelers. In this insightful episode, 3 Life Lessons From the Road,  they explore:

  1. Beauty Everywhere: Explore the breathtaking landscapes of America through the eyes of seasoned travelers. Discover how every corner of this country holds its own unique charm and beauty, reminding us to appreciate the world around us.

  2. People's Splendor: Dive into the heartwarming experiences of connecting with diverse communities across the nation. Jim & Christie share inspiring stories that highlight the kindness, resilience, and beauty of humanity found in every place they visit.

  3. Embracing the Moment: Learn the invaluable lesson of living in the present and making the most of every opportunity. With a message of "DO IT NOW," they encourage listeners to seize the moment, explore new horizons, and forge meaningful connections without delay.

Tune in to Your Marriage Matters and embark on a journey of discovery, inspiration, and joy with Jim & Christie Jacobus!

Apr 12, 2024

Welcome back to Your Marriage Matters with Jim & Christie Jacobus! In this episode, we delve into the crucial topic of trust in marriage and why it's the cornerstone of a strong, enduring relationship. Trust isn't just a nice-to-have; it's the foundation upon which emotional connection, communication, stability, and growth thrive.

In this episode, we discuss:

  1. Foundation of Emotional Connection: How trust lays the groundwork for deep emotional intimacy.
  2. Enhances Communication: The role of trust in fostering open, honest communication.
  3. Promotes Relationship Stability: How trust contributes to a stable and secure partnership.
  4. Strengthens Bonds: Ways in which trust strengthens the bonds between partners.
  5. Encourages Growth and Development: How a trusting environment encourages personal and relational growth.

Tune in as we share practical insights and actionable tips on how to cultivate trust in your marriage. Whether you're newlyweds or seasoned partners, these strategies will help you nurture a relationship built on trust, respect, and love.

Listen to the full episode on Your Marriage Matters podcast now!

Ways to Develop Trust:

  1. Be Honest: Transparency and honesty are the building blocks of trust.
  2. Follow Through on Commitments: Keeping promises reinforces reliability.
  3. Communicate Openly: Create a safe space for open, non-judgmental communication.
  4. Respect Boundaries: Honor each other's boundaries to build trust and mutual respect.
  5. Be Dependable: Consistency and reliability are key to earning and maintaining trust.

Don't forget to Like, Subscribe, and Share this episode to help others strengthen their marriages and build trust in their relationships. Let's spread the love and wisdom together!

Apr 5, 2024

🎙️ Join Jim and Christie Jacobus on Your Marriage Matters as they dive deep into "The 5 R’s of Spring Cleaning Your Marriage"! 🌷

In this episode, they discuss practical strategies to revitalize your relationship and create a stronger bond this spring. From reorganizing your time together to renovating your finances, refreshing appreciation, revitalizing shared goals, and renewing your commitment, Jim and Christie provide actionable tips for couples to strengthen their marriages.

Tune in to discover how to:

  1. Prioritize quality time for bonding activities.
  2. 2. Align your financial goals and create a budget together.
  3. 3. Express gratitude and appreciation for each other daily.
  4. 4. Set new challenges and adventures as a couple.
  5. 5. Reaffirm your love and commitment to each other.

Don't miss out on valuable insights that can transform your marriage! 🌟 Subscribe, listen, like, and share this episode with friends and family who could benefit from a healthy and thriving relationship! 💑✨

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Mar 29, 2024

In this episode of Your Marriage Matters podcast with Jim & Christie Jacobus we talk about the one habit that can change your marriage.

We are going to introduce couples to the idea of having a weekly meeting. Doing so is a great habit and can help get couples on the same page in a busy day to day life. Weekly meetings can ,,,


  1. Improved Communication: Regular meetings provide a dedicated time for couples to discuss important matters, express their feelings, and share updates about their lives. This fosters open and honest communication, leading to better understanding and connection.
  2. Conflict Resolution: Meeting weekly allows couples to address any issues or conflicts promptly. By discussing concerns in a structured manner, couples can work together to find solutions and prevent conflicts from escalating.
  3. Shared Goals and Planning: Couples can use these meetings to set goals, plan activities, and discuss long-term aspirations. This helps them stay aligned with each other's priorities and work towards common objectives, fostering a sense of teamwork and unity.
  4. Quality Time: Weekly meetings create dedicated time for couples to focus solely on each other without distractions. This quality time strengthens their bond, enhances intimacy, and reinforces their commitment to the relationship.
  5. Financial Transparency: Meetings can include discussions about finances, budgeting, and financial goals. This promotes transparency, accountability, and responsible financial management within the marriage.
  6. Emotional Support: Couples can provide emotional support, encouragement, and reassurance during these meetings. Sharing successes, challenges, and emotions in a supportive environment strengthens the emotional connection between partners.
  7. Conflict Prevention: Regular check-ins can help identify potential issues early on, allowing couples to address concerns before they escalate into larger problems. This proactive approach can prevent misunderstandings and improve overall relationship satisfaction.
  8. Increased Trust: Through consistent communication and transparency, couples build trust in each other. Knowing that they have a dedicated time to discuss important matters fosters a sense of reliability and dependability within the relationship.
  9. Enhanced Problem-Solving Skills: Weekly meetings provide opportunities for couples to practice problem-solving skills together. By brainstorming solutions, compromising, and collaborating, couples develop effective strategies for addressing challenges both in their relationship and in life.
  10. Strengthened Connection: Ultimately, regular meetings help couples stay connected, deepen their understanding of each other, and nurture a strong and healthy relationship over time.


The 7 things we encourage them to do are …

1.        Start with prayer

2.        Agenda item 1 … how are “we” doing?

3.        Agenda item 2 … finances

4.        Agenda item 3 … schedules

5.        Agenda Item 4 … goals

6.        Agenda item 5 … how can I support you this week

7.        End with prayer

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Mar 22, 2024

Join Jim & Christie Jacobus as they dive deep into the crucial topic of the 5 things that can slowly erode the foundation of your marriage. In this eye-opening episode, they discuss:

Communication Issues: Uncover the secrets to effective communication that can transform your relationship.

Lack of Appreciation: Discover the power of showing gratitude and appreciation to reignite the spark in your marriage.

Ignoring Conflict Resolution: Learn practical strategies to resolve conflicts constructively and strengthen your bond.

Neglecting Quality Time: Explore the importance of carving out quality time for each other amidst life's busyness.

Neglecting Personal Growth: Find out how personal growth contributes to a thriving marriage and a fulfilling life together.

Tune in to gain valuable insights and actionable tips to revive intimacy, joy, and love in your marriage. Don't forget to like, subscribe, and share this episode with your friends and family. Join our vibrant community on Facebook for ongoing support and resources to nurture your marriage journey. Let's build stronger, happier marriages together!

🔗 Listen to the full episode on your favorite podcast platform and watch the video version on our YouTube channel. Link in bio! #YourMarriageMatters #MarriageGoals #HealthyRelationships #JoyfulMarriage #Podcast #YouTube #JoinOurCommunity #LikeSubscribeShare #HappyMarriageHappyLife 🌟

Mar 15, 2024

Join Jim & Christie Jacobus on a transformative journey in this episode of Your Marriage Matters. Discover the profound truth that a great marriage is deeply rooted in worship, illuminating three essential facets of worship:

  1. Worship God as Creator: By acknowledging God as the creator of all things, including your marriage, you unlock the door to understanding the divine design behind your relationship.

  2. Worship God as Sovereign: Embrace the sovereignty of God in your marriage, recognizing His authority and wisdom in orchestrating every aspect of your journey together.

  3. Worship God as Savior: Lean into the redemptive power of God as your savior, finding hope and renewal in His grace and forgiveness within your marriage.

Through heartfelt worship, Jim & Christie reveal how:

  • Recognizing the sin, weakness, or failure of your spouse is a divine opportunity, not a coincidence.
  • God unveils the needs of your spouse to you, empowering you to become an instrument of His redemption and rescue.
  • Unity, understanding, and love flourish in marriages rooted in the worship of God.
  • Each glance at your spouse becomes a reflection of God's handiwork, reinforcing the sacredness of your bond.

Tune in to this episode to deepen your marital connection and experience the joy of worshiping together. Listen, like, share, and subscribe to Your Marriage Matters on your favorite podcast platform. Follow us on YouTube and Facebook at Your Marriage Matters to stay updated on our latest episodes and insights!

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Mar 8, 2024

Tune in to this episode of Your Marriage Matters, where we reflect on our recent participation at the One Night For Oneness Marriage Conference. Delve into the profound lessons we shared, including the significance of the apple tree analogy in understanding marriage dynamics. Explore why conventional approaches like threats, manipulation, and guilt fail to address the core issues in relationships, and how focusing on the heart is the key to lasting change. Gain valuable insights into recognizing and addressing your own role in marital challenges.

🔊 Key Takeaways:

  • Unpacking the apple tree analogy and its relevance to marriage
  • Why traditional tactics like threats and guilt are ineffective in solving marital issues
  • Understanding that all marriage problems are rooted in matters of the heart
  • The transformative power of self-awareness and personal growth in marriage improvement


Mar 1, 2024

In this highly anticipated episode, Jim & Christie Jacobus take you on an enlightening journey through the heart of marriage. Fresh from their engaging presentation at the One Night For Oneness Marriage Conference, they delve into profound truths that form the bedrock of enduring relationships:

  1. Romance as a Result, Not a Cause: Discover why Jim & Christie believe that romance isn't just a spark but the radiant outcome of a robust foundation in marriage.
  2. Accountability in Communication: Join the discussion on how embracing accountability for our words and actions fosters deeper understanding and intimacy in relationships. 
  3. The Heart's Role in Marital Dynamics: Gain valuable insights into the central role the heart plays in shaping our interactions, emotions, and connections within marriage.
  4. The Power of Words: Explore the profound link between the condition of our hearts and the words we speak, and how this impacts the quality of our relationships.


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Feb 23, 2024

Welcome back to Your Marriage Matters! As we wrap up February, the month of love, we're diving into the profound wisdom of Paul David Tripp's "Love is" statements. Join us as we break down these five powerful statements to help strengthen and deepen your relationship.

  1. Being Committed to Unity: Learn why it's more important to prioritize unity and understanding over winning arguments or being right. Discover how embracing unity can transform your relationship dynamics.

  2. Investing Time in Communication: Explore the significance of investing time to discuss and understand relational problems. We'll share practical tips for staying focused and resolving conflicts effectively.

  3. Valuing Trust and Faithfulness: Understand the crucial role of trust in relationships and the importance of being faithful to your promises. Discover how trust forms the foundation for a strong and lasting bond.

  4. Speaking Kindly and Gently: Discover the power of speaking kindly and gently, even during disagreements. Learn how to communicate effectively without attacking each other's character.

  5. Practicing Selflessness: Explore the significance of serving and supporting each other, even amidst busy schedules and exhaustion. Find inspiration to prioritize your partner's needs above your own.

Join us as we unpack these Love is statements and discover practical ways to enrich your marriage!

Feb 16, 2024

In this week's episode of Your Marriage Matters, hosts Jim and Christie Jacobus dive deep into the dynamics of relationships, armed with insights from The 5 Love Languages, Relational Needs, and DISC personality profiles.

Discover how understanding and embracing our differences can strengthen the bond between partners. By recognizing and honoring each other's unique ways of expressing love and fulfilling relational needs, couples can foster deeper connection and harmony in their marriages.

Join Jim and Christie as they unpack the importance of communicating with empathy and adapting to our partner's love languages and personality traits for a more fulfilling relationship journey.

Feb 9, 2024

Welcome to Your Marriage Matters with Jim & Christie Jacobus!

Embark on a journey through the dynamic stages of love with us as we explore the intricacies of relationships and the beauty of enduring commitment. Join us as we delve into the fascinating phases every couple encounters:

·      Infatuation/Honeymoon Phase:
Experience the exhilarating rush of passion and adoration as couples revel in the blissful haze of newfound love. Discover the magic of spontaneous gestures and the joy of being lost in each other's embrace.

·      Reality Check/Adjustment Phase:
Navigate the transition from euphoria to reality as couples confront imperfections and differences. Learn the art of effective communication and the power of compromise as you build a solid foundation for your future together.

·      Building Security and Stability:
Forge a bond of trust, commitment, and emotional intimacy as you lay the groundwork for a resilient partnership. Together, establish routines, share responsibilities, and pursue your dreams, united in purpose and unwavering support.

·      Navigating Challenges/Crisis Phase:
Confront external stressors head-on and emerge stronger as you weather life's storms together. Cultivate deep emotional connections and mutual support, finding strength in adversity and solace in each other's embrace.

·      Mature Love/Companionship Phase:
Celebrate the profound beauty of enduring love built on respect, understanding, and acceptance. Revel in the comfort of companionship and the richness of shared experiences, embracing the journey of growth and discovery as individuals and as a couple.

Join us on Your Marriage Matters as we unravel the mysteries of love's evolution and empower you to cultivate a relationship that stands the test of time. Remember, love is a journey, and together, we'll navigate its twists and turns with grace, communication, and unwavering commitment.

Jim & Christie Jacobus


Feb 2, 2024

Your Marriage Matters Podcast with Jim & Christie Jacobus: Pre Valentine's Day Edition!

Are you ready to elevate your Valentine's Day experience? Join the dynamic duo, Jim and Christie, on this week's podcast episode, where they unravel the secrets to making this romantic occasion truly unforgettable.

       Be Proactive: Don't settle for ordinary! Jim and Christie advocate for breaking free from the last-minute scramble and share insightful tips on being proactive in finding that perfect, thoughtful gift. Discover how a little planning can transform your Valentine's surprise into a cherished memory.

       Be Creative: Inject a dose of creativity into your celebration with the Cupid Challenge 2024! Immerse yourself in 14 fantastic ideas and challenges curated by Jim and Christie to add that extra spark to your Valentine's experience. From sweet gestures to exciting challenges, this is the perfect way to infuse fun and connection into your celebration.

       Be Intentional: Dive into the art of intentional love with Jim and Christie. Understand why knowing your partner's desires is the key to making them feel truly special. Discover the joy of selecting a gift that resonates with them, ensuring this Valentine's is all about celebrating their uniqueness.

Tune in now for a delightful blend of love, laughter, and invaluable wisdom that will make your Valentine's Day extraordinary! 🌹💑 #Joyhauling #ValentinesDay #MarriageMatters

Jan 26, 2024

Welcome to another episode of the Your Marriage Matters podcast with Jim & Christie Jacobus! In episode 175, we dive into the essence of building critical habits in your marriage. 🌟 Building upon our recent discussions on how core beliefs shape thoughts, actions, and ultimately habits, this episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to create positive habits from the foundation of their core beliefs.

🤔 Understanding the Power of Habits: Discover the profound impact habits have on your marriage. We revisit the influence of core beliefs and how they serve as the driving force behind our daily actions.

💑 Linking Core Beliefs to Positive Habits: Uncover the intricate connection between core beliefs and the formation of positive habits. Jim and Christie share practical examples that demonstrate the transformative power of aligning your beliefs with positive actions.

🚀 Practical Tips for Creating Positive Habits: Jim brings his expertise in sales to the table, offering actionable insights on applying sales principles to habit formation. Meanwhile, Christie provides valuable perspectives on cultivating habits that contribute to a thriving and healthy marriage.

🌈 Case Studies or Examples: Get inspired by real-life stories and examples of individuals who have successfully turned core beliefs into positive habits. Learn from challenges faced and overcome in the journey towards building a stronger marriage.

We want to hear from you! Share your experiences with building positive habits and join the conversation. Ask questions, leave comments, and be a part of the Your Marriage Matters community.

Tune in to Your Marriage Matters Podcast #175 for a dose of wisdom, practical tips, and heartfelt discussions. Your journey to the marriage you dreamed of when you said "I Do" begins here! #YourMarriageMatters #PositiveHabits #MarriageWisdom

Never Forget … Your Marriage Matters to us!


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Jan 19, 2024

🚀 Join us in this eye-opening episode of "Your Marriage Matters." Together, let's delve into the fascinating interplay between our core beliefs, thoughts, and actions within the intricate tapestry of marriage.

🔄 The Core Belief Cascade: In this episode we unpack the profound impact of core beliefs on the trajectory of a marriage. We will unravel how negative core beliefs, such as viewing marriage as a trap, can set off a chain reaction leading to negative thoughts and actions. Conversely, discover the transformative power of positive core beliefs, where marriage becomes an opportunity for shared growth, paving the way for positivity in every aspect.

🌱 Cultivating Positivity: Explore practical strategies and insights on fostering positive core beliefs about marriage. Whether you're navigating the nuances of a long-standing relationship or just embarking on the journey of marriage, this episode provides actionable takeaways to strengthen the foundation of your connection.

🎭 Perspectives from Jim and Christie: Experience the synergy gained from 37 years of marriage, experiencing the ups and downs and learning how to make your life together full of 99.9% ups!

🎉 Embrace the Joyful Journey: Tune in for learning and a lot of laughs as we share anecdotes and experiences that resonate with couples at every stage. Subscribe to "Your Marriage Matters" for a dose of inspiration and practical wisdom that will transform the way you view and navigate the beautiful adventure of marriage.

Never Forget … Your Marriage Matters to us!


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Jan 15, 2024

In episode 173 of Your Marriage Matters podcast, Jim and Christie Jacobus delve into the critical importance of cultivating the right thoughts about marriage, oneself, and one's partner. This episode serves as a follow-up to their previous discussion on how core beliefs significantly impact our thoughts. Jim, drawing on his expertise as a professional speaker, and Christie, as an online counselor, explore the profound influence thoughts have on actions and the overall dynamics of a relationship. They share practical strategies for aligning core beliefs with a positive mindset to enhance marital well-being.

The conversation extends to scriptural insights, referencing passages like Luke 6:41-42 and Philippians 4:5. The hosts unravel the biblical perspective on thoughts, emphasizing their role in the context of a healthy and thriving marriage. As they navigate through these profound insights, listeners can expect practical tips from Jim's experiences and Christie's counseling expertise.

The episode aims to equip listeners with a deeper understanding of the power thoughts hold in shaping the dynamics of marriage. Whether reflecting on biblical wisdom or gleaning insights from the hosts' professional backgrounds, the episode offers valuable takeaways for building and sustaining a joyful and fulfilling marital relationship. As always, Jim and Christie encourage their audience to subscribe, rate, and leave a review, and invite them to connect further on their Joyhauling with Team Jacobus podcast and YouTube channels. Tune in for more episodes packed with wisdom and practical advice for cultivating strong and thriving marriages.



Jan 5, 2024

Welcome to another episode of "Your Marriage Matters" with Jim and Christie Jacobus, where we dive deep into the foundations of a healthy marriage. 

In today's episode, we're exploring the significance of core beliefs in fostering a strong and lasting marital bond. 

Core beliefs are the fundamental convictions and principles that shape our perspectives and guide our actions. In the context of marriage, they form the bedrock of the relationship, influencing how partners interact and navigate through the journey together. 

1: You Can't Change, Cure, or Control Someone Else

One key core belief we emphasize is the understanding that individuals have their own autonomy. Accepting that you cannot change, cure, or control your partner is liberating. It encourages open communication and acceptance, fostering an environment where both partners can grow individually. 

#2: Pursue the Best Version of Yourself and Your Partnership: In our case, as Team Jacobus, we believe in the importance of pursuing personal growth and excellence within the relationship. This core belief underscores the idea that by striving to be the best version of ourselves, we contribute positively to the partnership, creating a dynamic where both partners continuously evolve and thrive together.

 #3: Unconditional Love as Part of God's Plan for Marriage: Our third core belief centers around the divine aspect of marriage. We explore the idea that part of God's plan for marriage involves learning to love each other unconditionally, mirroring the unconditional love that He showers upon us. This core belief deepens the connection between partners and reinforces the spiritual foundation of the marital relationship. 

In today's episode, we've looked into the essence of just 3 core beliefs in a marriage. By embracing these principles - recognizing individual autonomy, pursuing personal growth, and practicing unconditional love – you can strengthen your marriage and build a resilient foundation for a fulfilling and lasting life together!

Connect with us on:

  • Your Marriage Facebook Group: Your Marriage Matters
  • Instagram: @TeamJacobus
  • YouTube at Your Marriage Matters
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  • Subscribe to our podcast on your preferred platform!

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Dec 29, 2023

This is part 2 of our "4 Questions" annual process we go through to make sure 2024 is going to be the best year ever. We trust you will enjoy questions 3 and 4!

Repeat of last week's show notes ... 

People often ask us how we manage to stay in sync as a couple and maintain that synchronization over time. The key to our success lies in one word: communication. We firmly believe in the power of open, transparent and frequent communication, which allows us to be on the same page.

One of the effective processes we've implemented is what we call "The 4 Questions." We initiated this practice over two decades ago, and it has become a yearly ritual for us. As we approach the end of each year, we engage in this process to prepare for the upcoming one.

The impact of this process has been so profound that we've shared it with friends, family, our church community, and Jim delivers it to a number of his corporate clients annually.

This year, we're excited to share our "4 Questions" process with you over the next two weeks. We encourage you to answer these questions both individually and collectively, considering both your personal and professional roles In life. You can find a downloadable worksheet to guide you through the process at

Connect with us on:

  • Your Marriage Facebook Group: Your Marriage Matters
  • Instagram: @TeamJacobus
  • YouTube at Your Marriage Matters 
  • Explore our Blog:
  • Subscribe to our podcast on your preferred platform!

If you wish to reach out, feel free to contact us at

Looking forward to connecting with you next week!

Jim & Christie

Dec 22, 2023

People often ask us how we manage to stay in sync as a couple and maintain that synchronization over time. The key to our success lies in one word: communication. We firmly believe in the power of open, transparent and frequent communication, which allows us to be on the same page.

One of the effective processes we've implemented is what we call "The 4 Questions." We initiated this practice over two decades ago, and it has become a yearly ritual for us. As we approach the end of each year, we engage in this process to prepare for the upcoming one.

The impact of this process has been so profound that we've shared it with friends, family, our church community, and Jim delivers it to a number of his corporate clients annually.

This year, we're excited to share our "4 Questions" process with you over the next two weeks. We encourage you to answer these questions both individually and collectively, considering both your personal and professional roles In life. You can find a downloadable worksheet to guide you through the process at

Connect with us on:

  • Your Marriage Facebook Group: Your Marriage Matters
  • Instagram: @TeamJacobus
  • YouTube at Your Marriage Matters 
  • Explore our Blog:
  • Subscribe to our podcast on your preferred platform!

If you wish to reach out, feel free to contact us at

Looking forward to connecting with you next week!

Jim & Christie Jacobus

Jul 6, 2023

In this exciting and fun episode, join our hosts as they sit down with two extraordinary couples, Mindy and Chris Harris, and Hannah and Austin Pierce. Get ready to delve into the depths of married life and uncover the invaluable experiences and wisdom these newlyweds have to share about their wedding day and everything that went into it!.

Discover the emotions as Jim & Christie ask the question, "How does it feel being married?" Listen in awe as Mindy and Chris, along with Hannah and Austin, paint a vivid picture of the transformative power of love and commitment, expressing their heartfelt sentiments and sharing the joys they have already found in marriage.

Journey with us as we delve into their wedding days, relishing in the details of these enchanting events. Explore the laughter and tears that accompanied them, and brace yourself for the surprises that left them breathless. Uncover the lessons they learned and the changes they would make if given the chance.

But it doesn't stop there! Be prepared to take notes as our guests provide invaluable advice for couples embarking on their own marital journeys. From the process to the preparation, and even the intricacies of the actual day itself, Mindy, Chris, Hannah, and Austin impart their hard-earned wisdom, ensuring that every couple has a head start towards a flourishing and meaningful union.

And as the episode draws to a close, we look toward the future and explore what lies ahead for these amazing couples. Find out the exciting new adventures, dreams, and aspirations that await Mindy, Chris, Hannah, and Austin. Their stories will leave you inspired and eager to embrace the infinite possibilities that marriage holds.

Tune in to "Your Marriage Matters" with Jim & Christie Jacobus, where love and commitment take center stage, and gain invaluable insights from these remarkable couples. Get ready to ignite the fire in your own relationship and witness firsthand how marriages truly matter. Don't miss a moment of this extraordinary podcast episode!

Jun 29, 2023

Last week we discussed Jim's favorite topic for a great marriage - mindsets! This week we look at Christie's fav topic - skill sets! One is worthless without the other so we trust you will enjoy! 

In this podcast you will discover the secrets to a thriving relationship on the latest episode of Your Marriage Matters podcast! Join relationship experts Jim & Christie Jacobus as they unveil the three essential skills that will revolutionize your love life.

In this episode, you will learn:

  • Effective Communication: Discover the key techniques to enhance communication with your partner, allowing for better understanding, active listening, and meaningful dialogue.

  • Conflict Resolution: Gain valuable insights on how to navigate conflicts in your relationship with grace and ease. Learn practical strategies to address disagreements constructively and find mutually satisfying resolutions.

  • The Power of Compassion: Explore the transformative power of compassion in your relationship. Discover how practicing empathy and understanding can foster deep connection, empathy, and intimacy.

With their years of expertise and practical advice, Jim & Christie will guide you towards a deeper connection and lasting happiness in your relationship.

Don't miss this opportunity to transform your relationship into something truly extraordinary. Tune in now and make your marriage matter!

Jim & Christie Jacobus

Jun 22, 2023

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matters, where we explore the essential mindsets for a thriving and enduring marriage. In this episode, we'll dive into the 10 critical mindsets that form the foundation of a successful partnership.

  1. Commitment: Approach marriage with unwavering dedication and understand that it requires effort and perseverance. Cultivate a deep commitment to your partner and the relationship to ensure its strength and longevity.

  2. Communication: Prioritize open and honest communication. Actively listen to your partner's thoughts, feelings, and needs, and express yourself clearly and respectfully. Effective communication is vital for understanding, connection, and resolving conflicts.

  3. Empathy: Cultivate empathy to understand your partner's perspective, emotions, and experiences. Foster a sense of understanding and compassion. Empathy strengthens the bond between partners and nurtures a supportive and harmonious relationship.

  4. Respect: Treat your partner with respect, valuing their opinions, boundaries, and individuality. Avoid criticism, contempt, or disrespect. Mutual respect lays the groundwork for trust, appreciation, and a healthy dynamic.

  5. Teamwork: Embrace a teamwork mentality, recognizing that you and your partner are a united front working towards common goals. Support each other through challenges, celebrate victories together, and foster a sense of partnership and unity.

  6. Compromise: Master the art of compromise. Find solutions that benefit both partners and be willing to make concessions when conflicts arise. Maintaining harmony and balance through compromise is essential for a thriving marriage.

  7. Gratitude: Practice gratitude for your partner and the relationship. Acknowledge and appreciate their positive qualities and the efforts they make to enhance the marriage. Cultivating gratitude fosters a positive and appreciative mindset.

  8. Forgiveness: Cultivate the ability to forgive and let go of past grievances. Recognize that nobody is perfect, and holding onto resentment hinders the growth of the relationship. Forgiveness allows healing and renewal within the marriage.

  9. Adaptability: Embrace flexibility and adaptability as life circumstances change. Be willing to adjust and navigate those changes together as a couple. An adaptable mindset ensures resilience and growth in the face of challenges.

  10. Continuous Growth: Commit to personal and relational growth. Recognize that a successful marriage requires ongoing effort, learning, and self-improvement. Embrace opportunities for growth individually and as a couple to strengthen your bond.

By adopting these 10 critical mindsets, you can lay a solid foundation for a successful and fulfilling marriage. Embrace commitment, effective communication, empathy, respect, teamwork, compromise, gratitude, forgiveness, adaptability, and continuous growth. Subscribe to YOUR Marriage Matters for more insights and practical guidance on building a thriving and lasting marriage.

See you next week for the "skills" episode! 

Jim & Christie Jacobus


Jun 15, 2023

Of all of the habits we have been discussing this series just how important are the spiritual habits we develop? We believe they may be more important than all of the rest!

In this episode of Your Marriage Matters, Jim and Christie Jacobus explore the importance of cultivating spiritual habits within a marriage. They discussed a variety of practices and activities that can enhance the spiritual connection between partners, ultimately leading to a stronger and more fulfilling relationship. Here's a recap of the key points discussed:

  1. Reading and Studying Scripture: Jim and Christie emphasized the significance of regularly engaging in the reading and study of scripture as a couple. They highlighted how delving into sacred texts can deepen one's understanding of faith and provide a foundation for spiritual growth within the marriage.

  2. Shared Prayer: The hosts stressed the power of shared prayer in fostering a strong spiritual bond between partners. They discussed the benefits of coming together in prayer, emphasizing how it allows couples to seek guidance, express gratitude, and nurture a deeper connection with God.

  3. Hanging Out with Godly People: Jim and Christie encouraged couples to surround themselves with like-minded individuals who are committed to their faith. They discussed the importance of spending time with Godly people, as it can provide support, encouragement, and opportunities for spiritual growth within the marriage.

  4. Getting Involved in Something God Is Doing: The hosts highlighted the value of actively participating in activities aligned with God's purpose. They discussed how engaging in acts of service, missions, or community involvement can strengthen the couple's spiritual journey and provide opportunities to make a positive impact in the world.

  5. Practicing Gratitude Individually and as a Couple: Jim and Christie emphasized the transformative power of practicing gratitude. They discussed how cultivating a habit of gratitude individually and as a couple can foster a positive mindset, deepen appreciation for life's blessings, and enhance the spiritual connection within the marriage.

  6. Practicing Forgiveness Towards Each Other and Others: The hosts underscored the importance of forgiveness in nurturing a healthy and harmonious marital relationship. They discussed how extending forgiveness to one another, as well as to others, is a vital spiritual practice that promotes healing, growth, and the restoration of relationships.

  7. Engaging in Meaningful Conversations about Faith: Jim and Christie encouraged couples to engage in open and meaningful conversations about their faith. They discussed the value of discussing beliefs, doubts, questions, and experiences, as it allows partners to deepen their understanding of one another's spiritual journeys and strengthen their connection.

  8. Embracing Rituals and Traditions with Spiritual Significance: The hosts explored the significance of incorporating rituals and traditions into the marital relationship. They discussed how these practices, such as observing religious holidays or engaging in specific spiritual rituals, can create moments of reverence, reflection, and connection with one's faith.

  9. Setting Shared Spiritual Goals: Jim and Christie emphasized the importance of setting shared spiritual goals as a couple. They discussed how defining and working towards common aspirations can create a sense of purpose, unity, and growth in the marriage's spiritual journey.

Throughout the podcast, Jim and Christie shared practical insights, personal anecdotes, and guidance on how to integrate these spiritual habits into a marriage. They emphasized that by embracing these practices, couples can foster a stronger spiritual bond, cultivate a deeper connection with God, and experience a more fulfilling and meaningful life together.

Jun 8, 2023

Are you ready to take your relationship to the next level? Join hosts Jim and Christie Jacobus on their podcast, Your Marriage Matters, where they share valuable insights and practical advice on building a strong and prosperous marriage. In this episode, they uncover the secrets to healthy financial habits for engaged or seriously dating couples.

Money can be a sensitive subject, but Jim and Christie are here to guide you through the journey of financial harmony. They emphasize the importance of open and honest communication about money. By discussing your financial goals, priorities, and concerns regularly, you can ensure that you and your partner are on the same page.

Conflicts may arise, but fear not! Jim and Christie reveal the keys to conflict resolution when it comes to finances. They encourage couples to create a safe space to discuss differences in financial values, priorities, and approaches. Through active listening, compromise, and finding common ground, you can resolve disagreements and prevent financial issues from straining your relationship.

Ready to take control of your finances? The dynamic duo shares their wisdom on budgeting. By creating a joint budget that reflects both partners' income, expenses, and savings goals, you can avoid unnecessary financial stress and set yourselves up for success.

But financial success isn't just about the numbers. Jim and Christie emphasize the significance of shared financial goals. Whether it's saving for a dream house, retirement, or a well-deserved vacation, they guide you on how to work together, align your efforts, and make joint decisions to achieve these goals.

While working towards shared goals, it's equally important to maintain individual financial independence. Jim and Christie empower you to have personal spending money and be involved in managing your own finances, fostering a healthy balance in your relationship.

Unexpected expenses are inevitable, so be prepared! The hosts advocate for building an emergency fund together. Aim for three to six months' worth of living expenses and contribute to it regularly, ensuring peace of mind in times of financial uncertainty.

Debt can be a burden, but it doesn't have to be. Jim and Christie reveal strategies for debt management. Tackle existing debts as a team, prioritizing high-interest debts first. By avoiding new debt whenever possible, you can pave the way for a debt-free future.

Looking ahead, Jim and Christie stress the importance of saving for the future. Whether it's exploring retirement account options like 401(k)s, IRAs, or pension plans, or starting to save early to take advantage of compounding growth, they guide you on investing in your future together.

Regular financial check-ins are vital to staying on track. Jim and Christie advise scheduling these check-ins to assess your progress, adjust goals, and make any necessary changes. By staying accountable and adapting to new circumstances, you'll keep your financial journey on the right path.

Trust and transparency go hand in hand, especially when it comes to finances. Jim and Christie emphasize the need for maintaining transparent financial records. Sharing access to bank accounts, investment portfolios, and other financial accounts fosters trust and ensures that both partners have a clear understanding of the overall financial picture.

Finally, never stop learning. Jim and Christie encourage you to commit to ongoing financial education as a couple. Attend workshops, read books, or take courses together to enhance your knowledge about personal finance and investment strategies. This shared learning experience will strengthen your financial decision-making as a team.

Don't miss out on the wealth of knowledge shared by Jim and Christie on Your Marriage Matters. Tune in to their podcast today and discover the secrets to building a strong and financially secure marriage.

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