Welcome to the Your Marriage Matters podcast #019 from the book, “101 Conversations Every Couple should have before they Marry.” This podcast explores how you will individually and together approach decisions related to religion and spiritual matters.
Conversations of the Week - What do you think is the biggest threats you bring to your marriage, and what are you willing to do about it?
This question takes the topic from last week about the threats to your marriage, and it makes it personal.
Why is it important?
This gives you an opportunity to identify your SWOTs. What are your Strengths, Weaknesses Opportunities and Threats?Once you know what they are you can deal with them.
It also creates a heightened sense of self awareness. This allows you to focus only on your SWOTS.
What do we need to consider when we have this conversation?
The willingness to be vulnerable with your threats also creates a greater sense of intimacy. Being a safe person for your partner to share their weaknesses will create deeper bonds.
Once you make this investment in each other and look at the threats, you really build a deeper commitment to your relationship.
Listener Question of the Week - Why can’t he just let me vent?
Sometimes we bring up conversations just to be heard. We don’t want it to be fixed, and we don’t expect anything to be done about it. The process of verbalizing the issue is therapeutic in itself.
When venting starts, a guys should ask “do you want me to fix it or do you want to vent?”. Once the answer is “just vent”, turn your “fix it” button off and just listen and be supportive.
Determining whether you are there to fix it or just to listen and support will save both of you frustration.
Fun Question of the Week - What’s your favorite part of Summer?
Christie likes the outdoor activities in the sun.
Jim loves the July 4th holiday and all the activities that go along with it.
We hope this is a great conversation and you spend the time to really understand your partner’s beliefs and attitudes.
Have a great week gang!
Jim & Christie
Welcome! Today’s episode is about Holidays. Where will you spend them? Have you and your spouse had this important conversation? This topic involves the expectations you have of your marriage and ties to family beliefs and traditions. There are several variables to consider: stepfamilies, geographic location, travel, and children. This topic is best addressed before marriage and is certainly one that requires couples to work together.
Consider the following about your holiday plans:
What can you expect if you handle this conversation well?
Listener Question of the Week: I am really frustrated. My fiancé and I have been together for several years and have been through many birthdays and holidays. He likes to give practical gifts, and I like fun, crazy gifts. What are your recommendations as to what to do?
Fun Question of the Week: What is your idea of a great gift?
This week's episode is a #TBT where we take a look at one of our more popular episodes about handling conflict and how you should work to resolve it in your relationship.
Welcome! Today we’re tackling a tough conversation: Money. Stay with us to learn more!
**What are three things you like to spend money on and three things you think are a waste of money?
Listener Question of the Week: You are always talking about Dave Ramsey’s course. What are the things you like best about it?
Fun Question of the Week: If money were no object, what would you be doing right now?
**New Prepare to Last marriage classes are starting up. Visit www.riverpoint.org for more information.
Welcome! I’m doing the podcast solo today, as Christie is a little under the weather. Consider the following quote: “We should all be a little bit embarrassed about who we were five years ago.” What I mean by that is that we should never stop growing, developing, and transforming ourselves. This thought fits into our discussion topic for today, which is primarily aimed at the men, but also can be a guideline for women as they seek a life partner.
**Three Things every man needs to pursue to be a great spouse or partner:
--Covenant Love says, “I will love you no matter what.” Contract Love says, “I will love you IF . . .”
Listener Question of the Week: I have some guy friends that like to go out together from time to time, and she doesn’t like it. What do you think?
Fun Question of the Week: What is the one thing you love most about Christie?