Hey gang ... 

Welcome to Your Marriage Matterz podcast episode #044 4 Questions To Ask Yourself To Make 2019 YOUR Best Year Ever! This is Week 4 in the series ... the last week of the series and the last week of 2018!

We wrap up the series and the year with a great question - "what do you want to do that is BIG in 2019"? This question is a lot like last week's question but focuses on something that would be a game changer for you! Remember we are asking ourselves this question:

• Individually
• Collectively as a couple or family
• Personally
• And, professionally

So much of what we have done in this series is tied to us being "intentional" about our lives and specifically our marriages! In this episode we discuss some things we have done through the years that have been game changers for us and our marriage. And, we give you some ideas for what you could do that might be "BIG" in your marriage.

To download your cheat sheet for this week Click Here. We trust you will enjoy the wrap up question for this awesome series!

Jim & Christie Jacobus 

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz podcast episode #044 "4 Questions To Ask Yourself To Make 2019 YOUR Best Year Ever"! We are in week 3 of this 4 week series and our question this week is ... "What do you want to do in 2019 that is NEW"!

We love this question for a lot of reasons including ... 

1. It allows us to plan for exciting new things in 2019
2. It gives us the opportunity to enlist the blessing and support of our spouse for what we want to do new. 
3. It gives us great insights into ways we can grow individually and collectively!

So, download the handout by Clicking Here or by going to our Facebook Group at Your Marriage Matterz and let's get started!

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YMM episode #044 ... 4 Questions To Ask Yourself To Make 2019 YOUR Best Year Ever! In Week 3 of this 4 week series our question of the week is "What do we want to do that's NEW in 2019"? 

This question helps us in a couple of ways ... 

1. It allows us to plan for exciting things we may want to do together!
2. It allows us to be able to plan things we want to do individually but want or need our partners blessing or help to make it successful!
3. It gets us on the same page!
4. It gives us a ton of stuff to look forward to in 2019

We are going to ask ourselves this question in the following ways as will our spouse. Then we will compare notes. 

• Personally as an individual
• Professionally as an individual
• Personally as a collective or couple (Team Jacobus)
• Professionally as a collective or couple (Team Jacobus)

Be sure and download the handout we have for you before listening to the podcast. You can download the handout at Click Here!

Jim & Christie Jacobus 

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YMM episode #043 ... 4 Questions To Ask Yourself To Make 2019 YOUR Best Year Ever! In Week 2 of this 4 week series our question of the week is "What's not working in your life and how do you get rid of it, or make it work"? 

This question helps us in a couple of ways ... 

1. It allows us to get rid of the things in our life that no longer bring us value or don't bring us enough value to justify the time we are investing.
2. It allows us to examine how to male these things work so that we are maximizing the value they bring.
3. Most important ... it creates margin in our lives so we can add new and more valuable things into our lives and our marriages!
4. A new level of intentionality is added to our marriages!

We are going to ask ourselves this question in the following ways as will our spouse. Then we will compare notes. 

• Personally as an individual
• Professionally as an individual
• Personally as a collective or couple (Team Jacobus)
• Professionally as a collective or couple (Team Jacobus)

Be sure and download the handout we have for you before listening to the podcast. You can download the handout at Click Here!

Jim & Christie Jacobus 

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YMM episode #042 ... 4 Questions To Ask Yourself To Make 2019 YOUR Best Year Ever! In Week 1 of this 4 week series our question of the week is "What's working in your life and how can you do more of it"? 

This question helps us in a couple of ways ... 

1. It assists us in looking for patterns of things that are working because we will see some commonalities in the good!
2. It assists us in increasing our satisfaction in life that we can do more of or add to! 

We are going to ask ourselves this question in the following ways as will our spouse. Then we will compare notes. 

• Personally as an individual
• Professionally as an individual
• Personally as a collective or couple (Team Jacobus)
• Professionally as a collective or couple (Team Jacobus)

Be sure and download the handout we have for you before listening to the podcast. You can download the handout at Click Here!

Jim & Christie Jacobus 

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to Your Marriage Matterz with Jim & Christie Jacobus! This week's episode is titled The Power Of Personality Styles and How They Impact YOUR Marriage!

This is a two part podcast and is the last in our series of 4 Ways To Be Intentional About YOUR Marriage! This is one of our favorite topics to teach on marriage. It is the source of a lot of marital conflict when couples fail to see how God made them and their spouse. It can become a great strength as we learn that God was wise beyond our understanding when he put us together. 

So after you listen to the podcast please download the Personality Styles Cheat Sheet for taking notes and then watch the video to learn what your basic style is. Next week's episode will be about debriefing the strengths and challenges of each style, looking at the natural conflicts that will arise because we are different and then giving you some ways to use the info to be intentional about growing your marriage! 

Please let us know if you have any questions or if we can help you in any way! Enjoy these two episodes on The Power Of Personality Styles and How They Impact YOUR Marriage!

Jim & Christie Jacobus

Hey gang ... 

Below you will find both the downloadable Cheat Sheet for Episodes 41 & 42 as well as a link to the video's for both 41 and 42. Note: The video for 42 will not be added until YMM #042 is published ... no jumping ahead!

If you have any questions or difficulty with the downloads or the videos reach out to us Jim@JJacobus.com. We trust you will enjoy this episode! 

• Here is the link to the downloadable Cheat Sheet - Click Here
• Here is the link to the Week 1 YMM #041 video - Click Here 

Have an awesome day! 

Jim & Christie Jacobus 

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz episode YMM#040 The Power of Thanksgiving In Marriage ... and Life!

We feel so blessed to be able to do this work that we do and blessed that you would follow us. We are prayerful this Thanksgiving for all of the marriages out there and wanted to pass on a Thanksgiving 2018 podcast to encourage you!

As always, we do have a great exercise at the end of this podcast and encourage you to take some time to do it. And then, share it on the Facebook Group at

https://www.facebook.com/groups/1017258051759978/

We look forward to seeing your responses!

Happy Thanksgiving from Team Jacobus ... 

Jim & Christie Jacobus

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz with Jim & Christie Jacobus. This episode is Introducing "The 5 Love Languages" And How You Can Use Them To Strengthen YOUR Marriage! We are going to plug everyone into this awesome work done by Dr Gary Chapman and the folks at www.5lovelanguages.com!

This is another in our series on how to be intentional about building your marriage! In this episode we talk about the 5 Love Languages:

• Gifts
• Quality Time
• Physical Touch
• Words of Affirmation
• And ... Acts of Service

To get the most from this podcast we recommend you download the 5 Love Languages assessment tool and take it before listening. You can access the survey at any of the following ... 

1. Our Facebook group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/1017258051759978/
2. Our podcast blog page - http://marriagematters.libsyn.com/
3. 3. At the 5 Love Languages website - www.5lovelanguages.com 

Get ready to learn yet another way to intentionally build YOUR marriage!

Jim and Christie Jacobus 

Hey gang ...

With Thanksgiving just 2 weeks away we wanted to run one of our most popular podcasts ever on "How Will You Decide Where To Spend The Holidays"! We think you will enjoy how we, as Team Jacobus, go about making those tough decisions even after 31 years of marriage!

We trust you will enjoy ... 

Welcome!  Today’s episode is about Holidays.  Where will you spend them?  Have you and your spouse had this important conversation?  This topic involves the expectations you have of your marriage and ties to family beliefs and traditions.  There are several variables to consider:  stepfamilies, geographic location, travel, and children.  This topic is best addressed before marriage and is certainly one that requires couples to work together.  

Consider the following about your holiday plans:

• Assess what the different holidays and traditions mean to each of you.
• Try to begin new traditions with your partner.  Remember that your marriage relationship comes before any other family ties.
• Once you make decisions, “have each other’s backs” and don’t blame the other partner.
• Negotiate “win-win” situations for both of you.
• “Rate the debate” based on how important each element is to you: 1^st choice, 2^nd choice, and 3^rd choice.
• Establish communication and exercise your problem-solving skills.
• This is NOT the time to be selfish and demanding!

What can you expect if you handle this conversation well?  

• You achieve teamwork and unity with your spouse in the eyes of friends and family.
• You may end up enjoying the family traditions and the bonding opportunities with your spouse’s family.

Listener Question of the Week:  I am really frustrated.  My fiancé and I have been together for several years and have been through many birthdays and holidays.  He likes to give practical gifts, and I like fun, crazy gifts.  What are your recommendations as to what to do?

Fun Question of the Week:  What is your idea of a great gift?

Jim & Christie Jacobus 

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz podcast episode YMM #037 ... How To Make YOUR Spouse Feel Loved! Getting the Most From YOUR Survey ... 

We have a great show for you this week as we dig into being intentional about building strong, vibrant marriages and learning what our relational needs are and how they give us the keys to making our spouse feel loved!

This week we are digging deeper into last week's podcast and going through a debriefing process that will bring a lot of clarity around what do I do exactly to make my spouse feel loved! 

We have a Relational Needs Debriefing form you can download at ... 

1. Our Your Marriage Matterz Facebook page - Click Here
2. Or, go to our podcast blog page - Click Here
3. Or, e-mail Jim and put SURVEY in the subject line and he will send it to you ... jim@teamjacobus.com 

On the podcast we model the debrief for you and while doing it we learned new things about each other even after 31 years of marriage. We are excited to hear what you learn in your debrief!

Let us know if you have any questions or if we can help you in anyway ... 

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz podcast episode YMM #036 ... How To Make YOUR Spouse Feel Loved! Understanding Relational Needs In Marriage!

We have a great show for you this week as we dig into being intentional about building strong, vibrant marriages and learning what our relational needs are and how they give us the keys to making our spouse feel loved!

We have a Relational Needs Survey you can download at ... 

1. Our Your Marriage Matterz Facebook page - Click Here
2. Or, go to our podcast blog page - Click Here
3. Or, e-mail Jim and put SURVEY in the subject line and he will send it to you ... jim@teamjacobus.com 

In this survey we measure 10 different relational needs ... Acceptance, Affection, Appreciation, Approval, Attention, Comfort, Encouragement, Respect, Security and Support. Here are some things you will learn:

• Doing the survey will provide a lot of clarity around the mystery of how do I make my wife/husband happy!
• Why doesn't he/she respond when I (try to make them feel loved with what makes me feel loved)? 
• Some great ways to communicate what you want from your spouse and learn what they want from you!
• Clear up a lot of sources of frustration in your marriage you may never have even known existed!
• A great plan moving forward for being intentional in your marriage1

We know you will enjoy this week's podcast so download the survey, complete it and let's get started!

Jim & Christie Jacobus 

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to a replay of one of our most downloaded episodes from the archives of the Your Marriage Matterz podcast! Today we are going to tackle 5 Fundamental Principles For Building A Vibrant Healthy Marriage!

Our definition of a principle is that it "will work anywhere, any time and for anybody"! The principles in this podcast will make us better business men and women, better golfers or tennis players, better men, women, mothers, fathers and yes ... better husbands and wives! They will make us better, even extraordinary, at anything we choose in life. 

The principles we will share with you in this podcast are as follows:

• Be passionate about your life and you marriage
• Be committed to it 100%
• Have a big vision, or dream, for your marriage
• Keep learning and growing in your marriage
• Take total responsibility for your life and your marriage

We trust you will enjoy these principles!

Jim & Christie Jacobus

Read more at http://marriagematters.libsyn.com/page/2/size/25#g5zQ7HwEXLTCdrPU.99

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz podcast episode YMM #034 The Power of Prayer In A Marriage ... 4 Keys To Success!

We are following up on our podcast last week on 4 Ways To Be Intentional About Growing YOUR Marriage by diving off into the power of prayer in a marriage. 

This week we give you 4 Keys To Success as you introduce prayer or, if you are already praying together, into your relationship! This has been a game changer for us and we know it will be for you as well!

Grab your notebooks and let's get started!

Jim & Christie Jacobus 

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to Your Marriage Matterz podcast YMM #033 ... 4 Ways To Be Intentional About Growing YOUR Marriage! And, something you can do RIGHT NOW!

Time is flying by! In the process it is easy to overlook those we love and even take for granted they are even going to be here another day. This episode is focused on 4 Ways You Can Be Intentional about your marriage, getting to know your spouse at a deeper level and growing the quality of your relationship. 

As always, grab a pen and a piece of paper and take notes! Here we go ... 

Jim & Christie Jacobus 

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz episode YMM #032 ... How To Get YOUR Spouse To Change!

Lately Christie and I have heard a lot of "our marriage would work if he/she would just (fill in the blank)! So, we said, let's do an episode on just that! How do you get YOUR spouse to change. 

We trust you will enjoy this episode!!!

PS ... you might want to get out a pencil, something to write on and a mirror for this one!

Jim & Christie Jacobus 

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to the Your Marriage Matterz podcast episode #031 ... 4 Dangers Of Social Media (And, What To Do About Them)!

First things first! We love social media. We love our Facebook communities, Twitter followers, Instagram followers and our LinkedIn followers! There is nothing wrong with any of the social media platforms! Nothing!

That said, there are inherent dangers and we see them impacting marriages in a negative way every day. In this podcast we are going to discuss what they are and what you can do about them to protect and strengthen your relationship! 

Grab your notebooks and a pen. You will want to take some notes!

Hey there gang ... 

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz podcast episode #030 ... We Are Finally Back!

And yes, we hope you noticed that we missed the entire month of August doing the podcast and for that we apologize. We had a really scary health episode where Jim spent 8 days in ICU and just the experience itself was tough but the recovery period has been tough as well. 

That said, every challenge has a silver lining to it and for all of you that follow the podcast we believe it will bring about some great new stuff for our YMM Family! Check out the podcast to hear more ... 

And, we also want to say THANK YOU! So many of you have reached out to us in the last few weeks offering prayer, kind words, offering to help and on and on. What a blessing you have been to us in a time we really needed it. 

So, we are finally back! Can't wait for what's ahead!

Jim & Christie Jacobus
 

Hey there ... 

Welcome to Your Marriage Matterz podcast #029 ... Marriage At the Speed Of Life! This week we recap a 6 week study of Dr's Les and Leslie Parrott's awesome book The Time Starved Marriage! 

This was an awesome opportunity to look at time from so many different perspectives and really focus on a couple of key factors ... 

• Be intentional about the time we have in our marriage
• When we are so busy focus on quality instead of quantity
• Making our marriage a priority

We certainly learned a lot ourselves that we have already put into practice!

If you want to access the books, videos and other Time Starved Marriage resources CLICK HERE!

Check out our brand new Facebook Group by Clicking Here! 

We trust you will enjoy this week's podcast! Let us know if you have any questions or if you have any ideas for future podcasts!

Jim & Christie Jacobus
info@yourmarriagematterz.com 

Hey folks ... 

Welcome to the YOUR Marriage Matterz podcast episode YMM #028 ROLES AND RESPONSIBILITIES ... 5 Reasonable Expectations Every Couple Need To Agree On! Making Your Life Together Work. 

In this episode we wrap up our look at marital expectations. We focus on how we divide up all of the tasks and responsibilities that make up how we run our households! 

We provide you with a formula, a process, for making sure everything gets done and that we are fairly sharing the load! 

Grab a notepad and let's get to work getting to work!

Jim & Christie Jacobus

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to Your Marriage Matterz podcast episode #027 MONEY ... 5 Reasonable Expectations Every Couple Need To Agree On! WARNING: #4 may be something you don't really want to hear. 

This is the next in our series on reasonable expectations that apply to every marriage. We agree, right from the start, that money is tough to talk about. That said, being able to agree on some fundamentals is the foundation for productive conversations!

Grab a pen and a piece of paper because you are going to want to take some notes!

Let us know if you have any questions ... 

Jim & Christie Jacobus 

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to the YOUR Marriage Matterz podcast episode #026 Friends ... 6 Reasonable Expectations Every Couple Need To Agree On! This is the 4th in our series on Marital Expectations.

Along with these baseline expectations:

1. If the bible speaks to it that is our starting point
2. We will learn how to communicate openly and transparently
3. We will learn how to solve problems together

We are bringing you 3 more very reasonable expectations when it comes to our friends!

Get out your notepads because YOUR Marriage Matterz!

Jim & Christie Jacobus 

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to Your Marriage Matterz podcast YMM #025 FAMILY ... 4 Reasonable Expectations Every Couple Need To Agree On! We are going to be looking at the second episode in our The Power of Expectations In Our Marriage series. 

In this podcast we are going to discuss 4 very reasonable expectations every couple needs to agree on when it comes to dealing with our families.

When we said "I Do" we took on each other's families as well and at times that can be difficult! We are going to share some great ideas to assist you in dealing with Family Expectations!

If you have any questions or if we can help YOUR Marriage in any way let us know on the YOUR Marriage Matterz Facebook group or by e-mail at info@yourmarriagematterz.com . We look forward to hearing from you ... 

Jim & Christie Jacobus

Hey gang ...

Welcome to Your Marriage Matterz podcast #024 SEX ... 5 Reasonable Expectations Every Couple Need To Agree On! Sex Tips For A Vibrant Healthy Marriage. 

In this episode we continue on in our series on expectations by tackling the expectations we have about sex in our marriages! There are countless "what if's" every couple has about sex and we could do a podcast for days trying to answer them all. What we have done in this episode is give you 5 Reasonable Expectations that should give us all a great starting place for every what if we will ever have!

So, get out your notepads and pens and let's go to school on SEX ... 5 Reasonable Expectations Every Couple Need To Agree! Sex Tips For A Vibrant Healthy Marriage!

If you have any questions about what we share here, and we expect you do, feel free to e-mail them to us at info@yourmarriagematterz.com or go to the Your Marriage Matterz Facebook Group and post them there or Direct Message us! We look forward to hearing from you on this one!

Jim & Christie Jacobus
info@yourmarriagematterz.com 

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to Your Marriage Matterz podcast #023 The Power of Expectations For Good (and Bad) In Your Marriage! In this episode we are beginning to unpack the role that marital expectations play for good, and bad, in our marriages!

All of our expectations come from somewhere ... family, culture, past relationships, friends and on and on. Our job is to decide if the expectations are good, reasonable, add to our marriage(or take away) and learn to communicate them effectively to each other. 

From there we really want to focus on keeping the good stuff, add to it creative ideas to make them even better and create shared expectations. And, we always want to challenge the status quo to see if even our good expectations can be even better. 

In the next few podcasts we are going to tackle expectations regarding things like 

• Sex ... yes we will tackle this one!
• Money ... uh oh! 
• Careers
• Family and friends
• Roles and responsibilities
• And others (if you have an idea we would love to hear from you!)

So, get out your notepads! Here we go ... 

Jim & Christie Jacobus
info@yourmarriagematterz.com