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Hey gang! Welcome to Your Marriage Matters with Team Jacobus This podcast is dedicated to couples that want to get the most out of this crazy thing we call marriage! Each episode is designed to guide us in a fun and exciting way through the skills, strategies, tactics and mindset we need to build a compelling life together! Our goal is for all of us to create the vibrant and healthy marriages we all dreamed of when we said “I do”. Welcome to Your Marriage Matters with Jim and Christie Jacobus!
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"We Are Dedicated To Building Vibrant Healthy Marriages!"

Mar 22, 2024

Join Jim & Christie Jacobus as they dive deep into the crucial topic of the 5 things that can slowly erode the foundation of your marriage. In this eye-opening episode, they discuss:

Communication Issues: Uncover the secrets to effective communication that can transform your relationship.

Lack of Appreciation: Discover the power of showing gratitude and appreciation to reignite the spark in your marriage.

Ignoring Conflict Resolution: Learn practical strategies to resolve conflicts constructively and strengthen your bond.

Neglecting Quality Time: Explore the importance of carving out quality time for each other amidst life's busyness.

Neglecting Personal Growth: Find out how personal growth contributes to a thriving marriage and a fulfilling life together.

Tune in to gain valuable insights and actionable tips to revive intimacy, joy, and love in your marriage. Don't forget to like, subscribe, and share this episode with your friends and family. Join our vibrant community on Facebook for ongoing support and resources to nurture your marriage journey. Let's build stronger, happier marriages together!

🔗 Listen to the full episode on your favorite podcast platform and watch the video version on our YouTube channel. Link in bio! #YourMarriageMatters #MarriageGoals #HealthyRelationships #JoyfulMarriage #Podcast #YouTube #JoinOurCommunity #LikeSubscribeShare #HappyMarriageHappyLife 🌟

Mar 15, 2024

Join Jim & Christie Jacobus on a transformative journey in this episode of Your Marriage Matters. Discover the profound truth that a great marriage is deeply rooted in worship, illuminating three essential facets of worship:

  1. Worship God as Creator: By acknowledging God as the creator of all things, including your marriage, you unlock the door to understanding the divine design behind your relationship.

  2. Worship God as Sovereign: Embrace the sovereignty of God in your marriage, recognizing His authority and wisdom in orchestrating every aspect of your journey together.

  3. Worship God as Savior: Lean into the redemptive power of God as your savior, finding hope and renewal in His grace and forgiveness within your marriage.

Through heartfelt worship, Jim & Christie reveal how:

  • Recognizing the sin, weakness, or failure of your spouse is a divine opportunity, not a coincidence.
  • God unveils the needs of your spouse to you, empowering you to become an instrument of His redemption and rescue.
  • Unity, understanding, and love flourish in marriages rooted in the worship of God.
  • Each glance at your spouse becomes a reflection of God's handiwork, reinforcing the sacredness of your bond.

Tune in to this episode to deepen your marital connection and experience the joy of worshiping together. Listen, like, share, and subscribe to Your Marriage Matters on your favorite podcast platform. Follow us on YouTube and Facebook at Your Marriage Matters to stay updated on our latest episodes and insights!

Listen Now and Transform Your Marriage!

Mar 8, 2024

Tune in to this episode of Your Marriage Matters, where we reflect on our recent participation at the One Night For Oneness Marriage Conference. Delve into the profound lessons we shared, including the significance of the apple tree analogy in understanding marriage dynamics. Explore why conventional approaches like threats, manipulation, and guilt fail to address the core issues in relationships, and how focusing on the heart is the key to lasting change. Gain valuable insights into recognizing and addressing your own role in marital challenges.

🔊 Key Takeaways:

  • Unpacking the apple tree analogy and its relevance to marriage
  • Why traditional tactics like threats and guilt are ineffective in solving marital issues
  • Understanding that all marriage problems are rooted in matters of the heart
  • The transformative power of self-awareness and personal growth in marriage improvement

 

Mar 1, 2024

In this highly anticipated episode, Jim & Christie Jacobus take you on an enlightening journey through the heart of marriage. Fresh from their engaging presentation at the One Night For Oneness Marriage Conference, they delve into profound truths that form the bedrock of enduring relationships:

  1. Romance as a Result, Not a Cause: Discover why Jim & Christie believe that romance isn't just a spark but the radiant outcome of a robust foundation in marriage.
  2. Accountability in Communication: Join the discussion on how embracing accountability for our words and actions fosters deeper understanding and intimacy in relationships. 
  3. The Heart's Role in Marital Dynamics: Gain valuable insights into the central role the heart plays in shaping our interactions, emotions, and connections within marriage.
  4. The Power of Words: Explore the profound link between the condition of our hearts and the words we speak, and how this impacts the quality of our relationships.

 

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Feb 23, 2024

Welcome back to Your Marriage Matters! As we wrap up February, the month of love, we're diving into the profound wisdom of Paul David Tripp's "Love is" statements. Join us as we break down these five powerful statements to help strengthen and deepen your relationship.

  1. Being Committed to Unity: Learn why it's more important to prioritize unity and understanding over winning arguments or being right. Discover how embracing unity can transform your relationship dynamics.

  2. Investing Time in Communication: Explore the significance of investing time to discuss and understand relational problems. We'll share practical tips for staying focused and resolving conflicts effectively.

  3. Valuing Trust and Faithfulness: Understand the crucial role of trust in relationships and the importance of being faithful to your promises. Discover how trust forms the foundation for a strong and lasting bond.

  4. Speaking Kindly and Gently: Discover the power of speaking kindly and gently, even during disagreements. Learn how to communicate effectively without attacking each other's character.

  5. Practicing Selflessness: Explore the significance of serving and supporting each other, even amidst busy schedules and exhaustion. Find inspiration to prioritize your partner's needs above your own.

Join us as we unpack these Love is statements and discover practical ways to enrich your marriage!

Feb 16, 2024

In this week's episode of Your Marriage Matters, hosts Jim and Christie Jacobus dive deep into the dynamics of relationships, armed with insights from The 5 Love Languages, Relational Needs, and DISC personality profiles.

Discover how understanding and embracing our differences can strengthen the bond between partners. By recognizing and honoring each other's unique ways of expressing love and fulfilling relational needs, couples can foster deeper connection and harmony in their marriages.

Join Jim and Christie as they unpack the importance of communicating with empathy and adapting to our partner's love languages and personality traits for a more fulfilling relationship journey.

Feb 9, 2024

Welcome to Your Marriage Matters with Jim & Christie Jacobus!

Embark on a journey through the dynamic stages of love with us as we explore the intricacies of relationships and the beauty of enduring commitment. Join us as we delve into the fascinating phases every couple encounters:

·      Infatuation/Honeymoon Phase:
Experience the exhilarating rush of passion and adoration as couples revel in the blissful haze of newfound love. Discover the magic of spontaneous gestures and the joy of being lost in each other's embrace.

·      Reality Check/Adjustment Phase:
Navigate the transition from euphoria to reality as couples confront imperfections and differences. Learn the art of effective communication and the power of compromise as you build a solid foundation for your future together.

·      Building Security and Stability:
Forge a bond of trust, commitment, and emotional intimacy as you lay the groundwork for a resilient partnership. Together, establish routines, share responsibilities, and pursue your dreams, united in purpose and unwavering support.

·      Navigating Challenges/Crisis Phase:
Confront external stressors head-on and emerge stronger as you weather life's storms together. Cultivate deep emotional connections and mutual support, finding strength in adversity and solace in each other's embrace.

·      Mature Love/Companionship Phase:
Celebrate the profound beauty of enduring love built on respect, understanding, and acceptance. Revel in the comfort of companionship and the richness of shared experiences, embracing the journey of growth and discovery as individuals and as a couple.

Join us on Your Marriage Matters as we unravel the mysteries of love's evolution and empower you to cultivate a relationship that stands the test of time. Remember, love is a journey, and together, we'll navigate its twists and turns with grace, communication, and unwavering commitment.

Jim & Christie Jacobus

 

Feb 2, 2024

Your Marriage Matters Podcast with Jim & Christie Jacobus: Pre Valentine's Day Edition!

Are you ready to elevate your Valentine's Day experience? Join the dynamic duo, Jim and Christie, on this week's podcast episode, where they unravel the secrets to making this romantic occasion truly unforgettable.

       Be Proactive: Don't settle for ordinary! Jim and Christie advocate for breaking free from the last-minute scramble and share insightful tips on being proactive in finding that perfect, thoughtful gift. Discover how a little planning can transform your Valentine's surprise into a cherished memory.

       Be Creative: Inject a dose of creativity into your celebration with the Cupid Challenge 2024! Immerse yourself in 14 fantastic ideas and challenges curated by Jim and Christie to add that extra spark to your Valentine's experience. From sweet gestures to exciting challenges, this is the perfect way to infuse fun and connection into your celebration.

       Be Intentional: Dive into the art of intentional love with Jim and Christie. Understand why knowing your partner's desires is the key to making them feel truly special. Discover the joy of selecting a gift that resonates with them, ensuring this Valentine's is all about celebrating their uniqueness.

Tune in now for a delightful blend of love, laughter, and invaluable wisdom that will make your Valentine's Day extraordinary! 🌹💑 #Joyhauling #ValentinesDay #MarriageMatters

Jan 26, 2024

Welcome to another episode of the Your Marriage Matters podcast with Jim & Christie Jacobus! In episode 175, we dive into the essence of building critical habits in your marriage. 🌟 Building upon our recent discussions on how core beliefs shape thoughts, actions, and ultimately habits, this episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to create positive habits from the foundation of their core beliefs.

🤔 Understanding the Power of Habits: Discover the profound impact habits have on your marriage. We revisit the influence of core beliefs and how they serve as the driving force behind our daily actions.

💑 Linking Core Beliefs to Positive Habits: Uncover the intricate connection between core beliefs and the formation of positive habits. Jim and Christie share practical examples that demonstrate the transformative power of aligning your beliefs with positive actions.

🚀 Practical Tips for Creating Positive Habits: Jim brings his expertise in sales to the table, offering actionable insights on applying sales principles to habit formation. Meanwhile, Christie provides valuable perspectives on cultivating habits that contribute to a thriving and healthy marriage.

🌈 Case Studies or Examples: Get inspired by real-life stories and examples of individuals who have successfully turned core beliefs into positive habits. Learn from challenges faced and overcome in the journey towards building a stronger marriage.

We want to hear from you! Share your experiences with building positive habits and join the conversation. Ask questions, leave comments, and be a part of the Your Marriage Matters community.

Tune in to Your Marriage Matters Podcast #175 for a dose of wisdom, practical tips, and heartfelt discussions. Your journey to the marriage you dreamed of when you said "I Do" begins here! #YourMarriageMatters #PositiveHabits #MarriageWisdom

Never Forget … Your Marriage Matters to us!

 

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Jan 19, 2024

🚀 Join us in this eye-opening episode of "Your Marriage Matters." Together, let's delve into the fascinating interplay between our core beliefs, thoughts, and actions within the intricate tapestry of marriage.

🔄 The Core Belief Cascade: In this episode we unpack the profound impact of core beliefs on the trajectory of a marriage. We will unravel how negative core beliefs, such as viewing marriage as a trap, can set off a chain reaction leading to negative thoughts and actions. Conversely, discover the transformative power of positive core beliefs, where marriage becomes an opportunity for shared growth, paving the way for positivity in every aspect.

🌱 Cultivating Positivity: Explore practical strategies and insights on fostering positive core beliefs about marriage. Whether you're navigating the nuances of a long-standing relationship or just embarking on the journey of marriage, this episode provides actionable takeaways to strengthen the foundation of your connection.

🎭 Perspectives from Jim and Christie: Experience the synergy gained from 37 years of marriage, experiencing the ups and downs and learning how to make your life together full of 99.9% ups!

🎉 Embrace the Joyful Journey: Tune in for learning and a lot of laughs as we share anecdotes and experiences that resonate with couples at every stage. Subscribe to "Your Marriage Matters" for a dose of inspiration and practical wisdom that will transform the way you view and navigate the beautiful adventure of marriage.

Never Forget … Your Marriage Matters to us!

 

Click Here to Sign Up for The Cupid Challenge 2024!

 

Jan 15, 2024

In episode 173 of Your Marriage Matters podcast, Jim and Christie Jacobus delve into the critical importance of cultivating the right thoughts about marriage, oneself, and one's partner. This episode serves as a follow-up to their previous discussion on how core beliefs significantly impact our thoughts. Jim, drawing on his expertise as a professional speaker, and Christie, as an online counselor, explore the profound influence thoughts have on actions and the overall dynamics of a relationship. They share practical strategies for aligning core beliefs with a positive mindset to enhance marital well-being.

The conversation extends to scriptural insights, referencing passages like Luke 6:41-42 and Philippians 4:5. The hosts unravel the biblical perspective on thoughts, emphasizing their role in the context of a healthy and thriving marriage. As they navigate through these profound insights, listeners can expect practical tips from Jim's experiences and Christie's counseling expertise.

The episode aims to equip listeners with a deeper understanding of the power thoughts hold in shaping the dynamics of marriage. Whether reflecting on biblical wisdom or gleaning insights from the hosts' professional backgrounds, the episode offers valuable takeaways for building and sustaining a joyful and fulfilling marital relationship. As always, Jim and Christie encourage their audience to subscribe, rate, and leave a review, and invite them to connect further on their Joyhauling with Team Jacobus podcast and YouTube channels. Tune in for more episodes packed with wisdom and practical advice for cultivating strong and thriving marriages.

 

 

Jan 5, 2024

Welcome to another episode of "Your Marriage Matters" with Jim and Christie Jacobus, where we dive deep into the foundations of a healthy marriage. 

In today's episode, we're exploring the significance of core beliefs in fostering a strong and lasting marital bond. 

Core beliefs are the fundamental convictions and principles that shape our perspectives and guide our actions. In the context of marriage, they form the bedrock of the relationship, influencing how partners interact and navigate through the journey together. 

1: You Can't Change, Cure, or Control Someone Else

One key core belief we emphasize is the understanding that individuals have their own autonomy. Accepting that you cannot change, cure, or control your partner is liberating. It encourages open communication and acceptance, fostering an environment where both partners can grow individually. 

#2: Pursue the Best Version of Yourself and Your Partnership: In our case, as Team Jacobus, we believe in the importance of pursuing personal growth and excellence within the relationship. This core belief underscores the idea that by striving to be the best version of ourselves, we contribute positively to the partnership, creating a dynamic where both partners continuously evolve and thrive together.

 #3: Unconditional Love as Part of God's Plan for Marriage: Our third core belief centers around the divine aspect of marriage. We explore the idea that part of God's plan for marriage involves learning to love each other unconditionally, mirroring the unconditional love that He showers upon us. This core belief deepens the connection between partners and reinforces the spiritual foundation of the marital relationship. 

In today's episode, we've looked into the essence of just 3 core beliefs in a marriage. By embracing these principles - recognizing individual autonomy, pursuing personal growth, and practicing unconditional love – you can strengthen your marriage and build a resilient foundation for a fulfilling and lasting life together!

Connect with us on:

  • Your Marriage Facebook Group: Your Marriage Matters
  • Instagram: @TeamJacobus
  • YouTube at Your Marriage Matters
  • Explore our Blog: www.yourmarriagematters.com/blog
  • Subscribe to our podcast on your preferred platform!

If you wish to reach out, feel free to contact us at info@TeamJacobus.com.

Dec 29, 2023

This is part 2 of our "4 Questions" annual process we go through to make sure 2024 is going to be the best year ever. We trust you will enjoy questions 3 and 4!

Repeat of last week's show notes ... 

People often ask us how we manage to stay in sync as a couple and maintain that synchronization over time. The key to our success lies in one word: communication. We firmly believe in the power of open, transparent and frequent communication, which allows us to be on the same page.

One of the effective processes we've implemented is what we call "The 4 Questions." We initiated this practice over two decades ago, and it has become a yearly ritual for us. As we approach the end of each year, we engage in this process to prepare for the upcoming one.

The impact of this process has been so profound that we've shared it with friends, family, our church community, and Jim delivers it to a number of his corporate clients annually.

This year, we're excited to share our "4 Questions" process with you over the next two weeks. We encourage you to answer these questions both individually and collectively, considering both your personal and professional roles In life. You can find a downloadable worksheet to guide you through the process at www.yourmarriagematters.com/170.

Connect with us on:

  • Your Marriage Facebook Group: Your Marriage Matters
  • Instagram: @TeamJacobus
  • YouTube at Your Marriage Matters 
  • Explore our Blog: www.yourmarriagematters.com/blog
  • Subscribe to our podcast on your preferred platform!

If you wish to reach out, feel free to contact us at info@TeamJacobus.com.

Looking forward to connecting with you next week!


Jim & Christie

Dec 22, 2023

People often ask us how we manage to stay in sync as a couple and maintain that synchronization over time. The key to our success lies in one word: communication. We firmly believe in the power of open, transparent and frequent communication, which allows us to be on the same page.

One of the effective processes we've implemented is what we call "The 4 Questions." We initiated this practice over two decades ago, and it has become a yearly ritual for us. As we approach the end of each year, we engage in this process to prepare for the upcoming one.

The impact of this process has been so profound that we've shared it with friends, family, our church community, and Jim delivers it to a number of his corporate clients annually.

This year, we're excited to share our "4 Questions" process with you over the next two weeks. We encourage you to answer these questions both individually and collectively, considering both your personal and professional roles In life. You can find a downloadable worksheet to guide you through the process at www.yourmarriagematters.com/170.

Connect with us on:

  • Your Marriage Facebook Group: Your Marriage Matters
  • Instagram: @TeamJacobus
  • YouTube at Your Marriage Matters 
  • Explore our Blog: www.yourmarriagematters.com/blog
  • Subscribe to our podcast on your preferred platform!

If you wish to reach out, feel free to contact us at info@TeamJacobus.com.

Looking forward to connecting with you next week!

Jim & Christie Jacobus

Jun 15, 2023

Of all of the habits we have been discussing this series just how important are the spiritual habits we develop? We believe they may be more important than all of the rest!

In this episode of Your Marriage Matters, Jim and Christie Jacobus explore the importance of cultivating spiritual habits within a marriage. They discussed a variety of practices and activities that can enhance the spiritual connection between partners, ultimately leading to a stronger and more fulfilling relationship. Here's a recap of the key points discussed:

  1. Reading and Studying Scripture: Jim and Christie emphasized the significance of regularly engaging in the reading and study of scripture as a couple. They highlighted how delving into sacred texts can deepen one's understanding of faith and provide a foundation for spiritual growth within the marriage.

  2. Shared Prayer: The hosts stressed the power of shared prayer in fostering a strong spiritual bond between partners. They discussed the benefits of coming together in prayer, emphasizing how it allows couples to seek guidance, express gratitude, and nurture a deeper connection with God.

  3. Hanging Out with Godly People: Jim and Christie encouraged couples to surround themselves with like-minded individuals who are committed to their faith. They discussed the importance of spending time with Godly people, as it can provide support, encouragement, and opportunities for spiritual growth within the marriage.

  4. Getting Involved in Something God Is Doing: The hosts highlighted the value of actively participating in activities aligned with God's purpose. They discussed how engaging in acts of service, missions, or community involvement can strengthen the couple's spiritual journey and provide opportunities to make a positive impact in the world.

  5. Practicing Gratitude Individually and as a Couple: Jim and Christie emphasized the transformative power of practicing gratitude. They discussed how cultivating a habit of gratitude individually and as a couple can foster a positive mindset, deepen appreciation for life's blessings, and enhance the spiritual connection within the marriage.

  6. Practicing Forgiveness Towards Each Other and Others: The hosts underscored the importance of forgiveness in nurturing a healthy and harmonious marital relationship. They discussed how extending forgiveness to one another, as well as to others, is a vital spiritual practice that promotes healing, growth, and the restoration of relationships.

  7. Engaging in Meaningful Conversations about Faith: Jim and Christie encouraged couples to engage in open and meaningful conversations about their faith. They discussed the value of discussing beliefs, doubts, questions, and experiences, as it allows partners to deepen their understanding of one another's spiritual journeys and strengthen their connection.

  8. Embracing Rituals and Traditions with Spiritual Significance: The hosts explored the significance of incorporating rituals and traditions into the marital relationship. They discussed how these practices, such as observing religious holidays or engaging in specific spiritual rituals, can create moments of reverence, reflection, and connection with one's faith.

  9. Setting Shared Spiritual Goals: Jim and Christie emphasized the importance of setting shared spiritual goals as a couple. They discussed how defining and working towards common aspirations can create a sense of purpose, unity, and growth in the marriage's spiritual journey.

Throughout the podcast, Jim and Christie shared practical insights, personal anecdotes, and guidance on how to integrate these spiritual habits into a marriage. They emphasized that by embracing these practices, couples can foster a stronger spiritual bond, cultivate a deeper connection with God, and experience a more fulfilling and meaningful life together.

May 11, 2023

Do you want to learn how to achieve big things in your life without putting your relationship at risk? Well, you're in luck! In this podcast, we reveal the secret behind our success in working together as a couple. We call it the I D E A process, and it's a simple yet powerful tool that can help you achieve your goals without sacrificing your relationship.

I D E A stands for:

  • Inspiration
  • Discussion
  • Education
  • Action

We'll guide you through each step and show you how to apply it to both big and small projects. But that's not all! We'll also share some essential ground rules that will improve not only your relationship with each other but also your individual lives.

Whether you're planning a wedding, building a home, or pursuing a career, this podcast is a must-listen for any engaged couple looking to achieve success without compromising their love for each other.

Tune in now and discover how the I D E A process can transform your relationship!


Jim & Christie Jacobus 

May 4, 2023

What moments in a wedding day are critical to your personal enjoyment and the enjoyment of your guests? 

Well, Jim did a wedding this past weekend and on our way home we started discussing all of the great moments that were had by the couple and the guests and we had so much fun reliving the event we thought ... "why not do a podcast about it"!

So, here are 10 Key Moments In A Wedding Day You Absolutely Want To Get Right"!

We trust you will enjoy! Let us know if you have any questions ... 

PS ... just seriously dating? Still a fun discussion to have!

Jim & Christie Jacobus

Apr 25, 2023

What is one of the most important skills a couple can develop to keep their lives together vibrant and exciting? That is learning to create a shared vision for their futures both as individuals and as a couple. 

We always talk about being intentional. In this podcast we discuss how important it is to have:

  • A clear mission!
  • A clear vision!
  • A clear set of shared values!
  • A set of goals both individual and as a couple
  • And committing to be a great team!

We also encourage you to sit down and go through our Bucket List exercise. Download that exercise on our Facebook page documents section by Clicking Here!

As always we want you to know that we are here for you if we can help in any way and to remind you that YOUR Marriage Matters! 

See ya next week gang ... 

Team Jacobus

Apr 20, 2023

Ever wondered what it would be like to be in a relationship with or marry someone who is fully committed to being the best version of themselves and is always growing and improving in every aspect of their life? It would be pretty awesome, don't you think?

There's a quote that we often use to guide our search for the right person to share our life with: "become the person the person you are looking for is looking for." So, if we want to find someone who is always growing, we must also be on that same path ourselves.

adult learning

In this episode, we will discuss why it is crucial to continually grow and learn, and we will offer numerous ideas on how to achieve it. If you're reading this and listening to YOUR Marriage Matters, you're already on the right track! Let's make personal growth a part of our daily lives.

Remember: "As long as we are learning, we are living...the moment we stop learning is the moment we start to die." We hope you enjoy this podcast as we conclude our series on the 4 Cornerstones of a great life together!

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Jim & Christie Jacobus

Apr 6, 2023

Let's get this straight ... you will have problems, challenges and outright conflicts in your relationship! It is inevitable!!! How you handle them will be the key to the success in your lives moving forward!

Handling them well will actually enhance the strength of your connection as well as creating a deeper level of intimacy you won't be able to ever experience without these skills and principles!

So, here is what you will find in this podcast:

  • Conflict is a normal part of a healthy relationship!
  • One of our favorite skills - "Rate the Debate"!
  • Another of our faves - "Fight NAKED"!
  • Some biblical wisdom from Luke 16: 41-42
  • And our own personal challenges and victories when it comes to solving challenges we have faced together!

Enjoy the podcast and let us know if we can help you in any way!

Jim & Christie Jacobus

Mar 23, 2023

Is there any more critical in a relationship than being able to effectively communicate openly and transparently with each other? NOPE!!! There is not!

That is one of the reasons we are constantly doing podcasts about communications, teaching workshops that always include communications and, work very hard about improving our own communications. It is that critical!

In this podcast we:

  • Share with you two very important skill sets in the form of our Speaker Checklist and our Listener Checklist. You can Click Here to download our PDF that covers these two skills!
  • We will also share with you 10 No No's when it comes to effectively communicating with each other (and the rest of the world for that matter!)
  • Have 7 Powerful Communication Tools we all need to be intentional about mastering and using day in and day out!
  • Will teach you one of the most powerful techniques we teach in our workshops we call "The Two Chairs".

At the end of the podcast we give you 6 conversations you can use to practice the checklists, avoiding the No No's, the 7 tools and the chairs! Here are the  6 Great Conversations we created just for you: 

  1. One thing I would like for us to find common ground on is  
  2. It really hurts my feelings when you  
  3. One thing you could do that would really make me feel loved is .
  4. I would like to see us reduce our spending on  
  5. When it comes to our families could we
  6. The one thing I think would make us a better team is

Also, in the podcast we referred to one of our favorite tools, The Relational Needs Survey and learning more about making our partner feel loved. Here are the links to the two podcasts about the Relational Needs Assessment! Take the time to do this and watch how your relationship grows!!! 

  • Click Here to access the podcast on How To Make Your Partner Feel Loved!
  • Click Here to access the podcast on Getting the Most From Your Relational Needs Survey!
  • Click Here to download the Relational Needs Survey!

As always, if you have any questions or if we can help in any way please feel free to reach out to us by responding to this podcast post or go on over to our YOUR Marriage Matters Facebook Group!

Be sure and join us next week as we tackle the 2nd most important skill set we all need to develop - solving problems and resolving conflict! 

Click Here To Listen To The Podcast! 

Never ever forget how much YOUR Marriage Matters!

Jim & Christie Jacobus

 

 

 

Mar 16, 2023

What better way to answer that question than going straight to two "Nearlywed" couples that are just weeks away from saying :I do" and interview them?

 
Hannah and Austin

 Mindy and Chris

In this week's episode we ask these guys some great, even tough, questions about what their seriously dating and engagement phases have been like! You will hear them answer, very candidly, the following questions:

  • Why do you want to get married?
  • What have been some of the struggles you have faced while dating and engaged?
  • What have been the fun parts of this time in your lives? Any unexpected blessings?
  • What, if anything, do you think will be different once you say "I do"?
  • Imagine you have been married for 30 years ... what would you want people to say about you individually and as a couple? 
  • What is one piece of advice or insight you would want to give our couples out there that are engaged or seriously dating?

This was both a fun interview and a great learning experience. We trust you will enjoy it!

  • For your homework this week Click Here to download our discussion on creating a "Bucket List" together!
  • And, Click Here to download our Speaker/Listener Checklist to guide you through the discussion above!
  • Additionally we encourage you to join our Facebook group by Clicking Here!

Jim & Christie Jacobus

Mar 9, 2023

Hey gang!

In this podcast episode we preview a series we have entitled The 4 Foundations of A Great Relationship! It is intended to do exactly what the title says. As you are seriously dating or engaged we want you to begin working on the 4 things that will become the backbone of you experiencing everything you hope for if/when you walk down the aisle together to say "I DO"!

We will be covering the following:

  • Communication
  • Conflict resolution and/or problem solving
  • Creating a shared vision
  • Committing to being the best version of yourselves both individually and collectively
  • And, we have an interview with a few couples that are currently engaged and just months, or weeks, away from saying I DO to get their insights on this very important time in their lives!

We will also be sharing a little bit of our story and how we got here as well as the importance of commitment and intentionality! So, we trust you will enjoy this overview and join us in the weeks to come as we tackle these critical pieces to your success as a couple!

  • For your homework this week Click Here to download our discussion on creating a "Bucket List" together!
  • And, Click Here to download our Speaker/Listener Checklist to guide you through the discussion above!
  • Additionally we encourage you to join our Facebook group by Clicking Here!

Have an awesome week and join us for our podcast on Communication Skills!

Jim & Christie Jacobus

Mar 2, 2023

Are we excited about you getting married? Yes, we are! Are there reasons to hit the STOP Button on getting married? Absolutely! Are these "life sentences"? Now way! But, if not dealt with before you walk down that aisle and say "I DO" they will cause you a world of hurt. If not dealt with now they could very easily lead to a divorce at a later date.

What are good reasons to hit the STOP Button?

  • Addiction
  • Abuse
  • Response to internal or external pressures
  • Thinking marriage will fix your fiancee
  • Not having a "non negotiable" met by your future spouse

In this podcast we go into each of these in detail and provide you with some options when it comes to dealing with them. Again, these are not life sentences. As a matter of fact, we have seen some of the strongest marriage we know come out of a couple's dedication to dealing with one or more of these marriage killers!

There are also a handful of reasons to hit the PAUSE Button on your nuptials as well. Meaning we are going to acknowledge these challenges and begin to address them now. The great thing about this approach is it helps us develop our communication and problem skills during our engagement which is a microcosm of what are married life is going to be like together!

There you have it! 5 Reasons To Absolutely Hit the STOP Button On Getting Married!

If you have any questions please let us know. We are always here to help! Here are a couple of things you can do to help us ...

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Join us next week as we kick off a new series on The 4 Foundations of A Great Relationship!

Jim & Christie Jacobus

 

Feb 21, 2023

Why get married? That is a question we have been asking our seriously dating and engaged couples for years. Their answers are as varied as there are colors in a sunset! 

Some of those reasons are clearly well thought through while some give reason for pause. The good reasons do not guarantee success nor do the not so good reasons mean certain failure. That said, it pays to have a serious conversation or two or three or (you get where we are coming from) about the most important decision either of you will make in your adult lives. 

So, in this episode we walk you through what we feel like are great reasons for getting married. It isn't an exhaustive list but it is a pretty good place to start. 

We have also provided you with some tools for this conversation in the form of a brainstorming process we like to use often when we are wanting to go deeper in a conversation. You can use this process for a lot of different decisions you will need to make together.

And, we have provided you with two of our PDF tools as resources for this conversation. You can ... 

  • Click Here to download our Reasons To Get Married exercise
  • Click Here to download our speaker/Listener Checklist exercise. You can find the podcast for that tool at YMM 

As always we appreciate it if you can share this podcast with your friends and family that you think might benefit! And, go join the Facebook group by Clicking Here! 

We will see you next week when we will cover some really good reasons not to get married or at least think a little more about your decision! 

Always here for you ... 

Jim and Christie @TeamJacobus

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