YOUR MARRIAGE MATTERS
Let’s Talk About Sex Baby!
YMM #003
Welcome to Your Marriage Matters podcast #003 with Jim & Christie Jacobus. We have a great question today. We are going to talk about sex and how important that conversation is!
Our conversation of the week is: I think sex should occur ______ number of times per week!
We think this conversations is so important because sex is more to this questions than just about sex, it is also about expectations. Discussing this topic in our pre-marital classes we always point out that “sex is a lot like money, if you have all you want it is no big problem; if you don’t have all you want it is a huge problem”.
In one of our sessions there was a person who responded with 50 times per week, which truly is an unrealistic expectation. The intended partner answered with 2 times per week. As you can see by this example, discussions about sex and expectations is so important.
We should learn to freely discuss this topic, what we like and dislike, what our expectations are. One of the great things about sex is it brings us together as one, therefore we should be able to discuss this keeping in mind our differences as male and female as well as the unique individuals we are.
We want to help you get comfortable with this very difficult conversation as well as many more like it. Coming from a medical standpoint there are times when a physical or mental challenge presents itself, and those times need to be discussed as well or see the need for expert advise. Bottom line, sex is a wonderful gift we need to be able to talk about and how we treat this gift has a lot to do with how much we are able to enjoy the gift.
There are a few things/hurdles we need to be aware of during this conversation? Differences, beliefs, attitudes can affect this conversation. There can be things in one’s past that makes it difficult to discuss or painful. It is important to be respectful of that.
Another thing to contemplate is the old saying “women need to feel love to have sex and men need to have sex to feel love”. If we are selfish and self centered, in opposite corners of the ring on this, theen nobody gets what they want and need out of sex.
Here is our “Listener Question of the Week”?
We have been told that we should stop having sex for 90 days before we get married. What do you guys think about this?
Tune in to hear what Jim and Christie have to say about this awesome question!
If you have a question you would like to give us, go to www.your marriage-matter.com/qif.
Our “Fun Question of the Week”?
Would you prefer a vacation in Hawaii or Europe?
In closing, thanks for joining us for this podcast. We sincerely challenge you to commit to each other that you will take the time to have these types of difficult and important conversations and your relationship will continue to get better, because Your Marriage Matters!
Jim & Christie Jacobus