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Hey gang! Welcome to Your Marriage Matterz with Team Jacobus This podcast is dedicated to couples that want to get the most out of this crazy thing we call marriage! Each episode is designed to guide us in a fun and exciting way through the skills, strategies, tactics and mindset we need to build a compelling life together! Our goal is for all of us to create the vibrant and healthy marriages we all dreamed of when we said “I do”. Welcome to Your Marriage Matterz with Jim and Christie Jacobus!
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Now displaying: June, 2015

"We Are Dedicated To Building Vibrant Healthy Marriages!"

Jun 25, 2015
Welcome! Our topic today is
COMMUNICATION
. We all know that communication skills are
critical for a successful marriage, but these skill
s spill over into ALL areas of life.
Consider the following questions about communicatio
n:
Am I willing to be open, transparent, and vulnerablWelcome!  Our topic today is COMMUNICATION.  We all know that communication skills are critical for a successful marriage, but these skills spill over into ALL areas of life.  

Consider the following questions about communication:

  • Am I willing to be open, transparent, and vulnerable?
  • Am I willing to negotiate?
  • As a speaker, can I clearly ARTICULATE my point of view?
  • As a listener, can I FOCUS on what the other person is saying and give feedback to him/her?

Your assignment this week is to rate yourself and your spouse (gently!) from 1-10 on communication skills, both as a speaker and a listener.  Self-assessment is the way to identify your limitations and find a path to improvement!

Remember, COMMUNICATION IS A VITAL ISSUE THAT CAN BE THE #1 SOURCE OF PROBLEMS IN A MARRIAGE!  Join us for this important conversation!

LQOW:  Why does SHE want to know everything I’m thinking?

Fun Question of the Week:  What is your favorite quote?

e?
Am I willing to negotiate?
As a speaker, can I clearly ARTICULATE my point of
view?
As a listener, can I FOCUS on what the other person
is saying and give feedback
to him/her?
Your assignment this week is to rate yourself and y
our spouse (gently!) from 1-10 on
communication skills, both as a speaker and a liste
ner. Self-assessment is the way to identify
your limitations and find a path to improvement!
Remember,
COMMUNICATION IS A VITAL ISSUE THAT CAN BE THE #1 S
OURCE OF PROBLEMS
IN A MARRIAGE! Join us for this important conversa
tion!
LQOW: Why does SHE want to know everything I’m thin
king?
Fun Question of the Week: What is your favorite quo
te?
Jun 18, 2015

In this episode of Your Marriage Matters, Jim and Christie discuss family size.  It's an important discussion to have before you get married, so you can understand your spouse's expectations.

In the end, it's a big decision to make and how many children you have can affect every area of your life.  Jim and Christie discuss all the aspects in this episode!

Jun 11, 2015

Welcome to YOUR MARRIAGE MATTERS!  Our topic today is one that must be explored in every marriage; it’s the idea of CONFLICT RESOLUTION.  This topic cannot be dealt with merely on the surface level, but requires a deeper look at the issues and root causes.

What are the three biggest sources of conflict in your relationship?

To answer the question, ask yourself the following questions to begin the thought process:

  • What are the triggers (the “hot-button” topics) for conflict?
  • What is at the heart of the conflict?
  • What causes the conflict?
  • Are the issues related to priorities or people?
  • What is in the best interest of the marriage?

Your assignment is to write down the three sources of conflict and irritation you have identified and have your spouse do the same independently.  Then, compare what you have each written.

  Are you on the same page?  Often, couples experience CONFLICT in agreeing on what the sources of CONFLICT really are!  You must do the HARD WORK involved in resolving conflict, and the conflict cannot be resolved until it’s identified.  We each must be willing to look inside ourselves and be willing to change the only person I can change—ME!

Listener Question of the Week: 

 How do I bring up a difficult question and make it a productive conversation?

Fun Question of the Week:

 

What is your favorite thing to do on a rainy day?

 

Jun 4, 2015

Welcome to the YOUR MARRIAGE MATTERS podcast!  We have been teaching a class at church, and our question today comes out of that class.

What are three things that make you feel intentionally loved?

We want you to start this discussion with your spouse.  Write your ideas down and talk them over together.  You will see what the other person needs to feel loved.  Sometimes it may be the seemingly smallest gesture that means a big deal to your partner!  Remember that not all love is communicated through words.  This discussion will help you focus on what is important in the marriage and how your marriage can keep thriving throughout the years!

Sometimes one spouse may feel unlovable—like they don’t deserve love because of their past failures or insecurities.  This feeling can be a big barrier, and, of course, its sources need to be identified and addressed.  For our marriage to thrive, we each have to be good at GIVING and RECEIVING love!

Listener Question of the Week:  Are words ALWAYS the best form of communication?

 

Fun Question of the Week:  Other than immediate family, who has had a big impact on your life?

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