Hey gang ... 

Welcome to Your Marriage Matterz with Jim & Christie Jacobus! This week's episode is titled The Power Of Personality Styles and How They Impact YOUR Marriage!

This is a two part podcast and is the last in our series of 4 Ways To Be Intentional About YOUR Marriage! This is one of our favorite topics to teach on marriage. It is the source of a lot of marital conflict when couples fail to see how God made them and their spouse. It can become a great strength as we learn that God was wise beyond our understanding when he put us together. 

So after you listen to the podcast please download the Personality Styles Cheat Sheet for taking notes and then watch the video to learn what your basic style is. Next week's episode will be about debriefing the strengths and challenges of each style, looking at the natural conflicts that will arise because we are different and then giving you some ways to use the info to be intentional about growing your marriage! 

Please let us know if you have any questions or if we can help you in any way! Enjoy these two episodes on The Power Of Personality Styles and How They Impact YOUR Marriage!

Jim & Christie Jacobus

Hey gang ... 

Below you will find both the downloadable Cheat Sheet for Episodes 41 & 42 as well as a link to the video's for both 41 and 42. Note: The video for 42 will not be added until YMM #042 is published ... no jumping ahead!

If you have any questions or difficulty with the downloads or the videos reach out to us Jim@JJacobus.com. We trust you will enjoy this episode! 

• Here is the link to the downloadable Cheat Sheet - Click Here
• Here is the link to the Week 1 YMM #041 video - Click Here 

Have an awesome day! 

Jim & Christie Jacobus 

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz episode YMM#040 The Power of Thanksgiving In Marriage ... and Life!

We feel so blessed to be able to do this work that we do and blessed that you would follow us. We are prayerful this Thanksgiving for all of the marriages out there and wanted to pass on a Thanksgiving 2018 podcast to encourage you!

As always, we do have a great exercise at the end of this podcast and encourage you to take some time to do it. And then, share it on the Facebook Group at

https://www.facebook.com/groups/1017258051759978/

We look forward to seeing your responses!

Happy Thanksgiving from Team Jacobus ... 

Jim & Christie Jacobus

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz with Jim & Christie Jacobus. This episode is Introducing "The 5 Love Languages" And How You Can Use Them To Strengthen YOUR Marriage! We are going to plug everyone into this awesome work done by Dr Gary Chapman and the folks at www.5lovelanguages.com!

This is another in our series on how to be intentional about building your marriage! In this episode we talk about the 5 Love Languages:

• Gifts
• Quality Time
• Physical Touch
• Words of Affirmation
• And ... Acts of Service

To get the most from this podcast we recommend you download the 5 Love Languages assessment tool and take it before listening. You can access the survey at any of the following ... 

1. Our Facebook group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/1017258051759978/
2. Our podcast blog page - http://marriagematters.libsyn.com/
3. 3. At the 5 Love Languages website - www.5lovelanguages.com 

Get ready to learn yet another way to intentionally build YOUR marriage!

Jim and Christie Jacobus 

Hey gang ...

With Thanksgiving just 2 weeks away we wanted to run one of our most popular podcasts ever on "How Will You Decide Where To Spend The Holidays"! We think you will enjoy how we, as Team Jacobus, go about making those tough decisions even after 31 years of marriage!

We trust you will enjoy ... 

Welcome!  Today’s episode is about Holidays.  Where will you spend them?  Have you and your spouse had this important conversation?  This topic involves the expectations you have of your marriage and ties to family beliefs and traditions.  There are several variables to consider:  stepfamilies, geographic location, travel, and children.  This topic is best addressed before marriage and is certainly one that requires couples to work together.  

Consider the following about your holiday plans:

• Assess what the different holidays and traditions mean to each of you.
• Try to begin new traditions with your partner.  Remember that your marriage relationship comes before any other family ties.
• Once you make decisions, “have each other’s backs” and don’t blame the other partner.
• Negotiate “win-win” situations for both of you.
• “Rate the debate” based on how important each element is to you: 1^st choice, 2^nd choice, and 3^rd choice.
• Establish communication and exercise your problem-solving skills.
• This is NOT the time to be selfish and demanding!

What can you expect if you handle this conversation well?  

• You achieve teamwork and unity with your spouse in the eyes of friends and family.
• You may end up enjoying the family traditions and the bonding opportunities with your spouse’s family.

Listener Question of the Week:  I am really frustrated.  My fiancé and I have been together for several years and have been through many birthdays and holidays.  He likes to give practical gifts, and I like fun, crazy gifts.  What are your recommendations as to what to do?

Fun Question of the Week:  What is your idea of a great gift?

Jim & Christie Jacobus