Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz podcast episode YMM #036 ... How To Make YOUR Spouse Feel Loved! Understanding Relational Needs In Marriage!

We have a great show for you this week as we dig into being intentional about building strong, vibrant marriages and learning what our relational needs are and how they give us the keys to making our spouse feel loved!

We have a Relational Needs Survey you can download at ... 

1. Our Your Marriage Matterz Facebook page - Click Here
2. Or, go to our podcast blog page - Click Here
3. Or, e-mail Jim and put SURVEY in the subject line and he will send it to you ... jim@teamjacobus.com 

In this survey we measure 10 different relational needs ... Acceptance, Affection, Appreciation, Approval, Attention, Comfort, Encouragement, Respect, Security and Support. Here are some things you will learn:

• Doing the survey will provide a lot of clarity around the mystery of how do I make my wife/husband happy!
• Why doesn't he/she respond when I (try to make them feel loved with what makes me feel loved)? 
• Some great ways to communicate what you want from your spouse and learn what they want from you!
• Clear up a lot of sources of frustration in your marriage you may never have even known existed!
• A great plan moving forward for being intentional in your marriage1

We know you will enjoy this week's podcast so download the survey, complete it and let's get started!

Jim & Christie Jacobus 

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to a replay of one of our most downloaded episodes from the archives of the Your Marriage Matterz podcast! Today we are going to tackle 5 Fundamental Principles For Building A Vibrant Healthy Marriage!

Our definition of a principle is that it "will work anywhere, any time and for anybody"! The principles in this podcast will make us better business men and women, better golfers or tennis players, better men, women, mothers, fathers and yes ... better husbands and wives! They will make us better, even extraordinary, at anything we choose in life. 

The principles we will share with you in this podcast are as follows:

• Be passionate about your life and you marriage
• Be committed to it 100%
• Have a big vision, or dream, for your marriage
• Keep learning and growing in your marriage
• Take total responsibility for your life and your marriage

We trust you will enjoy these principles!

Jim & Christie Jacobus

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Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz podcast episode YMM #034 The Power of Prayer In A Marriage ... 4 Keys To Success!

We are following up on our podcast last week on 4 Ways To Be Intentional About Growing YOUR Marriage by diving off into the power of prayer in a marriage. 

This week we give you 4 Keys To Success as you introduce prayer or, if you are already praying together, into your relationship! This has been a game changer for us and we know it will be for you as well!

Grab your notebooks and let's get started!

Jim & Christie Jacobus 

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to Your Marriage Matterz podcast YMM #033 ... 4 Ways To Be Intentional About Growing YOUR Marriage! And, something you can do RIGHT NOW!

Time is flying by! In the process it is easy to overlook those we love and even take for granted they are even going to be here another day. This episode is focused on 4 Ways You Can Be Intentional about your marriage, getting to know your spouse at a deeper level and growing the quality of your relationship. 

As always, grab a pen and a piece of paper and take notes! Here we go ... 

Jim & Christie Jacobus 

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz episode YMM #032 ... How To Get YOUR Spouse To Change!

Lately Christie and I have heard a lot of "our marriage would work if he/she would just (fill in the blank)! So, we said, let's do an episode on just that! How do you get YOUR spouse to change. 

We trust you will enjoy this episode!!!

PS ... you might want to get out a pencil, something to write on and a mirror for this one!

Jim & Christie Jacobus 

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to the Your Marriage Matterz podcast episode #031 ... 4 Dangers Of Social Media (And, What To Do About Them)!

First things first! We love social media. We love our Facebook communities, Twitter followers, Instagram followers and our LinkedIn followers! There is nothing wrong with any of the social media platforms! Nothing!

That said, there are inherent dangers and we see them impacting marriages in a negative way every day. In this podcast we are going to discuss what they are and what you can do about them to protect and strengthen your relationship! 

Grab your notebooks and a pen. You will want to take some notes!

Hey there gang ... 

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz podcast episode #030 ... We Are Finally Back!

And yes, we hope you noticed that we missed the entire month of August doing the podcast and for that we apologize. We had a really scary health episode where Jim spent 8 days in ICU and just the experience itself was tough but the recovery period has been tough as well. 

That said, every challenge has a silver lining to it and for all of you that follow the podcast we believe it will bring about some great new stuff for our YMM Family! Check out the podcast to hear more ... 

And, we also want to say THANK YOU! So many of you have reached out to us in the last few weeks offering prayer, kind words, offering to help and on and on. What a blessing you have been to us in a time we really needed it. 

So, we are finally back! Can't wait for what's ahead!

Jim & Christie Jacobus
 

Hey there ... 

Welcome to Your Marriage Matterz podcast #029 ... Marriage At the Speed Of Life! This week we recap a 6 week study of Dr's Les and Leslie Parrott's awesome book The Time Starved Marriage! 

This was an awesome opportunity to look at time from so many different perspectives and really focus on a couple of key factors ... 

• Be intentional about the time we have in our marriage
• When we are so busy focus on quality instead of quantity
• Making our marriage a priority

We certainly learned a lot ourselves that we have already put into practice!

If you want to access the books, videos and other Time Starved Marriage resources CLICK HERE!

Check out our brand new Facebook Group by Clicking Here! 

We trust you will enjoy this week's podcast! Let us know if you have any questions or if you have any ideas for future podcasts!

Jim & Christie Jacobus
info@yourmarriagematterz.com 

Hey folks ... 

Welcome to the YOUR Marriage Matterz podcast episode YMM #028 ROLES AND RESPONSIBILITIES ... 5 Reasonable Expectations Every Couple Need To Agree On! Making Your Life Together Work. 

In this episode we wrap up our look at marital expectations. We focus on how we divide up all of the tasks and responsibilities that make up how we run our households! 

We provide you with a formula, a process, for making sure everything gets done and that we are fairly sharing the load! 

Grab a notepad and let's get to work getting to work!

Jim & Christie Jacobus

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to Your Marriage Matterz podcast episode #027 MONEY ... 5 Reasonable Expectations Every Couple Need To Agree On! WARNING: #4 may be something you don't really want to hear. 

This is the next in our series on reasonable expectations that apply to every marriage. We agree, right from the start, that money is tough to talk about. That said, being able to agree on some fundamentals is the foundation for productive conversations!

Grab a pen and a piece of paper because you are going to want to take some notes!

Let us know if you have any questions ... 

Jim & Christie Jacobus 

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to the YOUR Marriage Matterz podcast episode #026 Friends ... 6 Reasonable Expectations Every Couple Need To Agree On! This is the 4th in our series on Marital Expectations.

Along with these baseline expectations:

1. If the bible speaks to it that is our starting point
2. We will learn how to communicate openly and transparently
3. We will learn how to solve problems together

We are bringing you 3 more very reasonable expectations when it comes to our friends!

Get out your notepads because YOUR Marriage Matterz!

Jim & Christie Jacobus 

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to Your Marriage Matterz podcast YMM #025 FAMILY ... 4 Reasonable Expectations Every Couple Need To Agree On! We are going to be looking at the second episode in our The Power of Expectations In Our Marriage series. 

In this podcast we are going to discuss 4 very reasonable expectations every couple needs to agree on when it comes to dealing with our families.

When we said "I Do" we took on each other's families as well and at times that can be difficult! We are going to share some great ideas to assist you in dealing with Family Expectations!

If you have any questions or if we can help YOUR Marriage in any way let us know on the YOUR Marriage Matterz Facebook group or by e-mail at info@yourmarriagematterz.com . We look forward to hearing from you ... 

Jim & Christie Jacobus

Hey gang ...

Welcome to Your Marriage Matterz podcast #024 SEX ... 5 Reasonable Expectations Every Couple Need To Agree On! Sex Tips For A Vibrant Healthy Marriage. 

In this episode we continue on in our series on expectations by tackling the expectations we have about sex in our marriages! There are countless "what if's" every couple has about sex and we could do a podcast for days trying to answer them all. What we have done in this episode is give you 5 Reasonable Expectations that should give us all a great starting place for every what if we will ever have!

So, get out your notepads and pens and let's go to school on SEX ... 5 Reasonable Expectations Every Couple Need To Agree! Sex Tips For A Vibrant Healthy Marriage!

If you have any questions about what we share here, and we expect you do, feel free to e-mail them to us at info@yourmarriagematterz.com or go to the Your Marriage Matterz Facebook Group and post them there or Direct Message us! We look forward to hearing from you on this one!

Jim & Christie Jacobus
info@yourmarriagematterz.com 

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to Your Marriage Matterz podcast #023 The Power of Expectations For Good (and Bad) In Your Marriage! In this episode we are beginning to unpack the role that marital expectations play for good, and bad, in our marriages!

All of our expectations come from somewhere ... family, culture, past relationships, friends and on and on. Our job is to decide if the expectations are good, reasonable, add to our marriage(or take away) and learn to communicate them effectively to each other. 

From there we really want to focus on keeping the good stuff, add to it creative ideas to make them even better and create shared expectations. And, we always want to challenge the status quo to see if even our good expectations can be even better. 

In the next few podcasts we are going to tackle expectations regarding things like 

• Sex ... yes we will tackle this one!
• Money ... uh oh! 
• Careers
• Family and friends
• Roles and responsibilities
• And others (if you have an idea we would love to hear from you!)

So, get out your notepads! Here we go ... 

Jim & Christie Jacobus
info@yourmarriagematterz.com 

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to Your Marriage Matterz podcast #022 5 Myths About Marriage - Crushed By Team Jacobus! 

This week we look at 5 common things that create problems in marriage and are myths created by our culture and misinformation in general! The myths are ... 

• Happy couples never argue
• My spouse should "just know" 
• If you loved me you would change
• I have a right to privacy
• I would be better off alone, or with someone else

Check and see if you struggle with any of these! Getting rid of the myth, or myths, in your marriage will create a healthier, more vibrant connection between the two of you!

If you have any questions feel free to reach out to us at info@yourmarriagematterz.com or by connecting with us via our Facebook page Your Marriage Matterz!

Jim & Christie Jacobus

Hey there ... 

Welcome to Your Marriage Matterz podcast #021 ... Marriage At the Speed Of Life! This week we recap a 6 week study of Dr's Les and Leslie Parrott's awesome book The Time Starved Marriage! 

This was an awesome opportunity to look at time from so many different perspectives and really focus on a couple of key factors ... 

• Be intentional about the time we have in our marriage
• When we are so busy focus on quality instead of quantity
• Making our marriage a priority

We certainly learned a lot ourselves that we have already put into practice!

If you want to access the books, videos and other Time Starved Marriage resources CLICK HERE!

Check out our brand new Facebook Group by Clicking Here! 

We trust you will enjoy this week's podcast! Let us know if you have any questions or if you have any ideas for future podcasts!

Jim & Christie Jacobus
info@yourmarriagematterz.com 

Hey there ... 

Welcome to Your Marriage Matterz podcast #020 6 GREAT Date Night Questions To Ask Each Other ... Making "Date Night" Great again! This week we are going to give you 6 excellent date night questions you can ask each other to get to know more about ... 

• Your spouses history!
• Your spouses present!
• And, your spouses past!

After last week's "Listener Question of the Week" ... how often should we have date night we got tons of feedback wanting to know more about date night. So, this week we are taking a deeper dive into the subject and providing you with some great discussion questions to Make "Date Night" Great Again!

We trust you will enjoy this podcast! If you have any questions or if we can assist you in any way feel free to contact us via our Facebook Group Your Marriage Matterz or e-mail us info@yourmarriagematterz.com. We look forward to hearing from you !

Jim & Christie Jacobus

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to the Your Marriage Matterz podcast episode #019! We are asked all of the time what are the most common mistakes we see married couples make? So, to answer that question here is our podcast titled The 5 Most Common FAILS We See In Marriage Today And, What To Do About Them! 

Through the years we have seen these same 5 things pop up over and over again ... 

• Fail #1 - unreasonable marital expectations
• Fail #2 - not investing in the marriage
• Fail #3 - not working to develop trust
• Fail #4 - taking your spouse for granted
• Fail #5 - not making marriage a priority

Guilty of any of these? If you said yes ... enjoy the podcast!

Again, welcome to the Your Marriage Matterz podcast #019. We appreciate your listening!

Jim & Christie Jacobus
info@yourmarriagematterz.com 

Hey folks ... 

Welcome to Your Marriage Matterz and YMM #015 - Turning Your Marriage Into A Team That Can't Lose! This is the last session in our Couples At the Crossroads series. In this episode we discuss 5 things that will help you create a team atmosphere within your marriage. 

You hear us constantly refer to our marriage as Team Jacobus and that we take on the world shoulder to shoulder as a team. Our 5 keys this week are:

1. Be committed, or all in, on your marriage
2. The Team comes before the individual
3. Keep growing individually and collectively
4. Be your team's biggest cheerleader
5. Pass it on by teaching and mentoring others

Marriage wasn't meant to be a lonely individual endeavor but the joining of 2 people into one flesh. This podcast will get us on the way to making YOUR TEAM one that can't lose!

Thanks for listening ... 

Jim & Christie Jacobus
info@yourmarriagematterz.com 

Hey there gang ... 

Welcome to Your Marriage Matterz episode #017. Today's topic is Conflict Resolution and How To Effectively Solving Problems Together! 

Conflict in a marriage is inevitable! It is part of the deal when two people growing up with different backgrounds live together, play together and are focused on building a life together. 

How we handle this inevitable challenge will determine whether the conflict drives a wedge between us or actually strengthens our relationship. Learning to do it well will give us confidence in ourselves, each other and in our marriage!

This episode we will cover ... 

• Some basics about conflict in a marriage
• The difference in "Fighting In Our Marriage" and "Fighting For Our Marriage"
• And ... we are going to give you two of our favorite conflict resolution strategies you can use right away!

So, welcome to Your Marriage Matterz episode #017! Grab a pen and some paper! You are going to want to take notes on this one ... 

Jim & Christie Jacobus
info@yourmarriagematterz.com 

Hey there gang ... 

Welcome to Your Marriage Matterz episode #017. Today's topic is Conflict Resolution and How To Effectively Solving Problems Together! 

Conflict in a marriage is inevitable! It is part of the deal when two people growing up with different backgrounds live together, play together and are focused on building a life together. 

How we handle this inevitable challenge will determine whether the conflict drives a wedge between us or actually strengthens our relationship. Learning to do it well will give us confidence in ourselves, each other and in our marriage!

This episode we will cover ... 

• Some basics about conflict in a marriage
• The difference in "Fighting In Our Marriage" and "Fighting For Our Marriage"
• And ... we are going to give you two of our favorite conflict resolution strategies you can use right away!

So, welcome to Your Marriage Matterz episode #017! Grab a pen and some paper! You are going to want to take notes on this one ... 

Jim & Christie Jacobus
info@yourmarriagematterz.com 

Hey folks ... 

Welcome to our Couples At the Crossroads series episode The Power of Effective Communication In YOUR Marriage. This week we discuss the critical marital skill of communication. And ... we are going to focus in on how important it is to be both a communicator and a listener by sharing our "Communication Rules of the Road"! Check it out ... 

Speaker Rules of the Road ... 

• Right place, right time, right mood
• Use "I" language instead of "You" 
• Focus on one subject at a time
• Give the listener time to respond
• Put a time limit on sharing your thought

Listener Rules of the Road ... 

• Give your undivided attention
• Don't interrupt
• Actively listen - eye contact, take notes and watch your body language
• Repeat or paraphrase back what you heard to check for accuracy
• Seek first to understand - then and only then, seek to be understood!

And, we gave you some homework this week to make a list of 10 Things I Love About My Spouse and to share it with each other using the Speaker/Listener Rules of the Road listed above!

Being intentional to improve our communication skills will greatly improve every area of life but specifically you will love what it does for your marriage!

Let us know if you have any questions by going to our Facebook page Your Marriage Matterz! Or, you can e-mail us info@yourmarriagematterz.com. 

Thanks for listening ... 

Jim & Christie Jacobus

Hey gang ... 

Our Listener Question of the Week was about how to share the household chores. Attached you will find a couple of checklists you can use to decide whether ... 

• He does it
• She does it
• We do it together
• We hire someone to do it for us!

Let us know if you have any questions ...

Jim & Christie Jacobus
info@yourmarriagematterz.com 

Hey there gang ... 

We are in Part 2 of our Couples At The Crossroads - How To Reset Your Marriage series. This week we are talking about getting on the same page. When our marriage isn't flourishing the way we want it to or is stuck we have to go back to the beginning and reset it!

Today we talk about resetting our marriage at a 30,000 ft level and at ground zero. We will be discussing ...

• Money
• Sex
• Marital Expectations
• Parenting
• Roles and Responsibilities
• Faith and Spirituality
• Communication
• Conflict Resolution
• And much, much more

Join us as we dive into this series Couples At the Crossroads and reset your marriage for an even better relationship!

We also have an awesome "Listener Question of the Week" where we tackle how to share household responsibilities. We have a couple of downloads for you this week so check to help with household chores them out!

Thanks for listening

Jim& Christie Jacobus
info@yourmarriagematterz.com 

NOTE: Jim and Christie have laryngitis this week so we are pulling one of our most popular podcasts over from The Man Up Project 2020 podcast. The idea that there are ONLY 3 Reasons Why Marriages Fail amy seem a little simple but we believe you will find they are accurate! We trust you will enjoy this crossover episode of YMM #014! 

Hey guys!

While the title may seem a little ominous there really are only "3 Reasons Why Men Fail"! It is that simple. This podcast is going to cover those reasons and give some clear direction on what to do about it!

And, there are only 3 Reasons Why Employees Fail, our children, our friends and family! when we learn the three reasons we can become instrumental in helping others become successful as well!

So, get out your notepads and let's get to studying the "3 Reasons Why Men Fail"!