What is the Biggest Threat You Bring to Your Marriage? YMM #19

Welcome to the Your Marriage Matters podcast #019 from the book, “101 Conversations Every Couple should have before they Marry.” This podcast explores how you will individually and together approach decisions related to religion and spiritual matters.

 

Conversations of the Week - What do you think is the biggest threats you bring to your marriage, and what are you willing to do about it?

 

This question takes the topic from last week about the threats to your marriage, and it makes it personal.  

 

Why is it important?

 

This gives you an opportunity to identify your SWOTs.  What are your Strengths, Weaknesses Opportunities and Threats?Once you know what they are you can deal with them.

 

It also creates a heightened sense of self awareness.  This allows you to focus only on your SWOTS.

 

What do we need to consider when we have this conversation?

• We bring things to the marriage that are good and bad

• We can’t fix what we won’t acknowledge

• We gain confidence in our marriage.  

• Your marriage that “the team” is going to face these challenges  head up! 

• We all need grace for the things we struggle with.  We can ask each other for assistance.

• The intentionality of dealing with something you know you struggle with is important.

The willingness to be vulnerable with your threats also creates a greater sense of intimacy.  Being a safe person for your partner to share their weaknesses will create deeper bonds.  

 

Once you make this investment in each other and look at the threats, you really build a deeper commitment to your relationship.  

 

Listener Question of the Week - Why can’t he just let me vent?

Sometimes we bring up conversations just to be heard.  We don’t want it to be fixed, and we don’t expect anything to be done about it.  The process of verbalizing the issue is therapeutic in itself.  

 

When venting starts, a guys should ask “do you want me to fix it or do you want to vent?”.  Once the answer is “just vent”, turn your “fix it” button off and just listen and be supportive.  

 

Determining whether you are there to fix it or just to listen and support will save both of you frustration.  

 

Fun Question of the Week - What’s your favorite part of Summer?

 

Christie likes the outdoor activities in the sun.

 

Jim loves the July 4th holiday and all the activities that go along with it.

 

 

We hope this is a great conversation and you spend the time to really understand your partner’s beliefs and attitudes.

 

Have a great week gang!

 

Jim & Christie