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Hey gang! Welcome to Your Marriage Matterz with Team Jacobus This podcast is dedicated to couples that want to get the most out of this crazy thing we call marriage! Each episode is designed to guide us in a fun and exciting way through the skills, strategies, tactics and mindset we need to build a compelling life together! Our goal is for all of us to create the vibrant and healthy marriages we all dreamed of when we said “I do”. Welcome to Your Marriage Matterz with Jim and Christie Jacobus!
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Nov 27, 2019

Hey gang ... 

3 Keys To Being Thankful In Your Marriage ... Even If You Don't Feel Like It!

This episode will drop on Wednesday, November 27th the day before Thanksgiving 2019. We felt like it was the perfect time to talk about how we can all stay proactively and intentionally thankful in our marriages ... even if we don't feel like it! 

Remember ... "it is thankful people that are happy ... not happy people that are thankful"! 

Happy Thanksgiving everyone!


Jim & Christie Jacobus 

Oct 23, 2019

Hey gang ... 

SEX ... 10 Things That Can Get In The Way Of A Great Sex Life! In this episode we are going to share the Top 10 things that get in the way of couples having a great sex life. Some you may be familiar with but some may come as a surprise!

So, write down the list and check to see where you and your spice can improve to spice things up a bit!!!


Jim & Christie Jacobus

 

Oct 16, 2019

Welcome Gang ... 

3 Things We Can Learn From A "Divorce Coach"!

Just this past week Christie and Jim had the opportunity to appear on Christy Stratton's show "The Divorce Coach Hour"! What an awesome learning experience it was talking about how people can go through, if they must, a divorce and come out the other side whole and with hope for a great future! 

So, we decided to do this week's episode on 3 Things We Can Learn From A "Divorce Coach" and how to make sure you don't ever need one! The ideas are simple, not necessarily easy, and are:

  • Don't quit!
  • Be vigilante!
  • Be proactive!

Check out this week's episode for the details ... 


Jim & Christie Jacobus 

Oct 9, 2019

I Said I'm Sorry! Why That Is Never Enough and The Art Of A Real Apology!

Today we are going to look at what a real apology looks like, why some people struggle with it and exactly what steps to tske when saying "I am sorry"! 

We trust you will enjoy this episode! 


Jim & Christie Jacobus 

Sep 25, 2019

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz podcast episode YMM #082 ... Why YOUR Spouse Doesn't Have A Clue ... And What To Do About It!

The truth is we all have times, things and stuff in our lives where we just don't have a clue! Certainly your spouse does ... and you do too!

In this episode we are going to cover the 3 reasons why we all don't have a clue sometimes. They are:

  1. Don't know what to do!
  2. Can't do what is required!
  3. And the toughest ... Won't do what needs to be done! 

And, of course, we share with you what to do about each category! Want to know why your spouse doesn't have a clue? No problem! Grab a pen and paper and take notes. We promise it will be worth it. 


Jim & Christie Jacobus

Sep 11, 2019

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz podcast episode YMM #081 ... 3 Huge Mistakes We Have Made In Our Marriage And What We Are Doing About Them!

In this episode we are going to get real with you all about just 3, there have been more for sure, huge mistakes we have made in our marriage and specifically what we did, and are doing, about them!

We felt like it was important for everyone listening to know that we struggle just like you do. That said, we believe there are some insights to be gained about how we tackle the inevitable problems and challenges marriage creates!

We trust you will enjoy this episode ... 


Jim & Christie Jacobus 

Sep 4, 2019

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz podcast episode YMM #080 ... 4 Words That Should NEVER Come Out Of A Married Person's Mouth!

This week we talk about the often used phrase "my wife/husband" won't let me (fill in the blank here)! If, and when, those words are spoken it is always bad news! In this episode we talk about why it is bad for your marriage and what you need to do about it.

This one is going to be fun and insightful so let's go!


Jim & Christie Jacobus

Aug 21, 2019

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Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz podcast episode YMM #079 ... The 3 Biggest Mistakes Men Make In Marriage- and what to do about them!

Based on a phone call I had with a dad lately worrying about his daughter and son in laws marriage and our conversation made me really compelled to do this podcast. In the work we do we see these challenges day in and day out!

If you are one of our female listeners and you feel like you can take a pass on this episode ... think again! The same 3 things apply to women equally!

Enjoy the podcast and let us know if we can help you build a more vibrant healthy marriage!

Jim & Christie Jacobus 

Aug 14, 2019

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz podcast episode YMM #078 ... Back To School! 3 Classes EVERY Married Couple Needs To Enroll In This Fall! 

With school starting back up for all of our kiddos as this episode drops we thought it appropriate to toss out 3 classes we felt couples ought to enroll in this fall to help build a more vibrant healthy marriage! Those classes are:

  • The Fundamentals of Marriage!
  • Spousal Science - The Study of YOUR Spouse!
  • ME - The Study of Self!

School's in session ... 


Jim & Christie Jacobus

Aug 7, 2019

Hey Gang ... 

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz podcast episode YMM #077 What Can We Learn From Divorce To Grow Our Marriages? 

Teaching a 13 week Divorce Care class 3 times a year, for 15 years, can definitely provide clues to why and how marriages get sideways enough to end in divorce. It also provides a lot of insights into how to "divorce proof" your marriage. 

In this episode Jim answers some great, and tough, questions from Christie about what divorce can teach us about marriage. Check it out!


Jim & Christie Jacobus

Jul 31, 2019

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz podcast episode YMM #076 - 3 Conversations Every Couple Needs To Have ... TODAY! You hear Christie and I talk about how important communication is so we are dishing out 3 critical conversations for you and yours to discuss this week! 

1. What's working in our relationship?

2. What's not working? Where are we stuck? And, what is one thing we can do this week to improve or move forward?

3. What is one SMART goal we can create together and start working on TODAY?

We trust these will just be the beginning of a great week of conversation! Let us know how it goes!


Jim & Christie Jacobus

Jul 24, 2019

Hey gang!

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz podcast episode YMM #075 What Can You Learn From A Marriage Counselor With 15 Years Experience? 

Today we do a "camp site chat" with Christie Jacobus LPC, who has 15 years of experience as a counselor helping marrieds and pre-marrieds build more vibrant, healthy marriages! She also is a LPC Supervisor which means she helps future counselors as they prepare to become LPC's!

Today we are going to ask Christie what are some of the things she deals with in the privacy of her counseling office and what can we do to prevent needing marriage counseling in the first place! 

Grab a pen and a piece of paper ... you are going to want to take some notes!!!


Jim & Christie Jacobus 

Jul 17, 2019

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz episode YMM #074 ... How Can My Spouse & I Get On The Same Page About Money? This is the last in our series on 5 Tough Questions About Money! 

Today we tackle the question almost every couple has ... "how can we get on the same page when it comes to our finances"? There are so many factors we have discussed over the last 4 weeks that contribute to why this is such a tough challenge. 

While we may not solve that challenge in this podcast we do give you and your spouse a great exercise to go through we believe will help move you along the path!

Grab a pen and paper for this one! There is going to be work to do ... 


Jim & Christie Jacobus

Jul 10, 2019

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz podcast episode #073 ... How Much Money Can I Spend Without Checking With My Spouse? This is the fourth in our series on 5 Tough Questions Couples Have About Money.

We divide our answers into 3 different responses based on which one of 3 phases or stages your marriage is in! Are you surviving, striving or thriving? 

We trust you will enjoy this podcast ... 


Jim & Christie Jacobus 

Jul 3, 2019

Hey gang ...

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz podcast episode YMM#072 titled "What's The #1 Thing We Can Do To Stop Arguing About Money?"

This is Question #3 in our series on 5 Tough Questions About Money! In this episode we actually give you 6 great ideas you can process to get on the same financial page and quit arguing about money. We trust you will enjoy the answers to this week's tough question!


Jim & Christie Jacobus 

Jul 3, 2019

Hey gang ...

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz podcast episode YMM#072 titled "What's The #1 Thing We Can Do To Stop Arguing About Money?"

This is Question #3 in our series on 5 Tough Questions About Money! In this episode we actually give you 6 great ideas you can process to get on the same financial page and quit arguing about money. We trust you will enjoy the answers to this week's tough question!


Jim & Christie Jacobus 

Jun 26, 2019

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matters podcast episode YMM #071 5 Tough Questions About Money! Q2 ... The Battle Between Savers vs Spenders! As a part of our series on tough money questions couples face we dive into this "hot button" topic that lots of couples struggle with!

We are going to give you a couple of thoughts on the subject and 4 awesome principles you can apply to get on the same page when it comes to Saving vs Spending styles! 

We trust you will enjoy this week's episode and that it will help you understand how to make the most of your spending/saving style! 


Jim & Christie Jacobus 

 

Jun 19, 2019

Hey gang ...

This week we start a new series 5 Tough Questions About Money! And, Question #1 is ... Joint Or Separate Bank Accounts, Which Is Best?

And, the answer is? It depends! I know, that stinks for those of you that wanted us to solve the problem or the debate you and your spouse have ongoing on this subject. What we think you are going to value even more are the 4 Tips we give you to help you find the right answer that will work best in your, or any, situation!

Let us know what you think and please let us know what are your "what if" questions around this subject and how we can help you come to an effective solution in your marriage! 

Next week ... we will be tackling which is better? Spender vs Saver in a marriage! 


Jim & Christie Jacobus 

Jun 12, 2019

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz podcast episode YMM #069 ... How To Make YOUR Spouse Feel Loved! Getting the Most From YOUR Survey ... 

We have a great show for you this week as we dig into being intentional about building strong, vibrant marriages and learning what our relational needs are and how they give us the keys to making our spouse feel loved!

This week we are digging deeper into last week's podcast and going through a debriefing process that will bring a lot of clarity around what do I do exactly to make my spouse feel loved! 

We have a Relational Needs Debriefing form you can download at ... 

  1. Our Your Marriage Matterz Facebook page - Click Here
  2. Or, go to our podcast blog page - Click Here
  3. Or, e-mail Jim and put SURVEY in the subject line and he will send it to you ... jim@teamjacobus.com 

On the podcast we model the debrief for you and while doing it we learned new things about each other even after 31 years of marriage. We are excited to hear what you learn in your debrief!

Let us know if you have any questions or if we can help you in anyway ... 

Jun 5, 2019

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz podcast episode YMM #036 ... How To Make YOUR Spouse Feel Loved! Understanding Relational Needs In Marriage!

We have a great show for you this week as we dig into being intentional about building strong, vibrant marriages and learning what our relational needs are and how they give us the keys to making our spouse feel loved!

We have a Relational Needs Survey you can download at ... 

  1. Our Your Marriage Matterz Facebook page - Click Here
  2. Or, go to our podcast blog page - Click Here
  3. Or, e-mail Jim and put SURVEY in the subject line and he will send it to you ... jim@teamjacobus.com 

In this survey we measure 10 different relational needs ... Acceptance, Affection, Appreciation, Approval, Attention, Comfort, Encouragement, Respect, Security and Support. Here are some things you will learn:

  • Doing the survey will provide a lot of clarity around the mystery of how do I make my wife/husband happy!
  • Why doesn't he/she respond when I (try to make them feel loved with what makes me feel loved)? 
  • Some great ways to communicate what you want from your spouse and learn what they want from you!
  • Clear up a lot of sources of frustration in your marriage you may never have even known existed!
  • A great plan moving forward for being intentional in your marriage1

We know you will enjoy this week's podcast so download the survey, complete it and let's get started!


Jim & Christie Jacobus 

May 29, 2019

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz episode YMM #067 ... 5 "Vital Signs" That You Have A Vibrant, Healthy Marriage! In this week's episode we draw on Christie's experience as a nurse that teaches CPR, Advanced Life Support Systems and a number of other classes that teach other nurses how to check "vital signs" in their patients. 

We are going to look at 5 Vitals Signs we see in vibrant, healthy marriages. They are:

  • Communicating effectively ...
  • Dealing with conflict in a constructive manner ... 
  • Planning and dreaming a future together ... 
  • Constantly growing individually and as a couple ... 
  • A deep love, appreciation and respect for each other!

So, check it out and assess your own relationship "vital signs"!


Jim & Christie Jacobus

May 22, 2019

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YOU Marriage Matterz podcast episode YMM #066 ... 7 Great (and FUN) Texts You Can Send Your Spouse This Week!

After 8 intense weeks of studying Pastor Rick Warren's 40 Days of Prayer we thought it would be a good idea to lighten things up a little bit, have some fun and still do something that will improve the quality of our marriages.

So, here are the 7 days of texts we encourage you to send your spouse. Fill in the blanks however you see fit and please, let us know how it goes on the YOUR Marriage Matterz Facebook group! 

Day #1 - I wanted you to know I love the way you (fill in the blank)!

Day #2 - When I met you the first thing that caught my eye was (fill in the blank)!

Day #3 - One of the things I admire about you most is (fill in the blank)!

Day #4 - One thing I would love for us to plan to do together is (fill in the blank)!

Day #5 - I am totally in love with your (fill in the blank)!

Day #6 - I think you are so sexy when you (fill in the blank)!

Day #7 - What is one thing I can do to make you feel more loved?

Enjoy and have fun!


Jim & Christie Jacobus 

May 15, 2019

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz podcast episode YMM #065 ... What To Do When God Doesn't Answer Your Prayer the First Time? 

This is the final episode of the 40 Days of Prayer series and man have we learned a lot about prayer! Today we learn about unanswered prayer. As you will hear, all prayer is answered in one of 4 ways. 

God says ...

  • No - I won't do what you ask because he knows what's best for us!
  • Grow - I need for you to mature a little bit before I answer that prayer. 
  • Slow - which means "wait" now is not the time. And, God's timing is always perfect!
  • Go - this is the answer we always want ... YES!

We trust you have enjoyed the series and we trust you will enjoy this last, but very important, episode! 


Jim & Christie Jacobus 

May 8, 2019

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz episode YMM #064 ... How To Pray In A Crisis! This is our 6th week in Rick Warren's 40 Days of Prayer and we are going to learn the pattern for praying in a crisis from Jehoshaphat in 2 Chronicles 20 when 3 vast armies attacked the Israelites and Jehoshaphat had only 2 days warning! Talking about a crisis!

To summarize his prayer he basically said to God ... "I know who you are, I know what you have said, I know what you have done, I know what you have promised and I know you will do it again"!

Talk about trusting and depending on God! That is the model we want and need to utilize when our marriage, kids, family, health, finances or anything else is in a crisis!

We trust you will find this episode as valuable as we did!

 
Jim & Christie Jacobus 

May 1, 2019

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YMM #063 ... Praying For A Breakthrough! We are in Week 5 of Rick Warren's 40 Days of Prayer study and this week we are going to learn the pattern for praying for a major change!

This week's lesson comes out of Daniel Chapter 9 and we are given the pattern Daniel used when he needed a breakthrough for the people of Israel who were in exile in Babylonia!

This is the same pattern we need to use when we are looking for a breakthrough in our marriages! 

We trust you will enjoy this week ... 


Jim & Christie Jacobus 

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